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Do not force brahmacharya

On family, partnership, and the immortal Self.

Having children brings joy but also creates sorrow through worry for their future. In modern times, children's excessive freedom causes suffering by not heeding parents. Regarding spiritual life and partnership, do not force solitude if your inner self does not fully refuse it. You can live harmoniously with a partner while practicing meditation. Partnership is foremost about human feelings and belonging, not merely sexuality. Love offers freedom and support without conditions or demands. A partner is a part of you; sharing opinions and feelings creates happiness. Before having children, consider your ability to educate them spiritually.

The Self is immortal Śiva: truth, consciousness, and bliss. This reality is the universal soul present in every atom and creature, undestroyable by any element or weapon. The body is mortal and part of a recycling process, but the Ātmā is eternal, existing in past, present, and future. The Ātmā is not the doer and is above karma, yet one must use intellect and not justify harmful acts. Realizing you are this immortal Self overcomes all suffering and fear of death.

"Love does not demand anything. Where there is love, there is freedom."

"The Ātmā cannot be destroyed at any time. You were, you are, and you will be."

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I will translate this beautiful bhajan for you, because its subject is very interesting. It is a serious subject in India, and I think here too. When a couple has a child, they are very happy. But at the same time, they create sorrows for themselves. They worry: Will our child be healthy? Will our child get a proper education? Will they have a good job? Will they find a good partner? Will they have enough material things? And we hope they will have healthy children. They think and pray to God that their child should be healthy, educated, and find a beautiful partner. In modern civilization, the system has changed a little. Children have become too free. They do not give their parents a chance to tell them anything. That is why they suffer. So this question that comes to us is a very important, serious one. Then there is also another question: Many people are fighting against their feelings. If they practice yoga and spiritual life, should they stay alone, or should they have a relation, a partner? Many are trying, but inwardly they are suffering. They have nightmares. That is not right. If your inner self says no completely, and you have no time or hormonal reactions, then okay, you can stay alone. Otherwise, you can be with a partner. At the same time, you can practice your meditation and mantras and live a spiritual life. If you force yourself to remain in brahmacharya, it is not good. It may confuse you. So, lead your life happily and harmoniously with your partner. I think to live with a partner means not only sexual life. That is the last thing. The first thing is human feelings: a feeling of belonging. Who cares about you? If you are happy, if you are healthy, if you have the freedom to do what you like, your partner should support you. If you like to go skiing and the other one does not like it, okay, they do not have to go. But if you go skiing, your partner should not say, "Oh God, again skiing." That is not love. Love does not demand anything. Where there is love, there is freedom. And where there is attachment and ignorance, there is jealousy, complexes, and hatred. So, to have someone in life who understands you, who loves you, and who supports you is very important. A partner should never put conditions. When you put conditions, then there is no more love. Partner means part; it is a part of you. Have the same opinion, same feelings, same way. Then it is a very happy life. I have touched upon this subject many times. Before you have children, you should think it over. Both of you should consider if you are able to educate them spiritually. I am telling you this because many of you have this problem, and you have confidence in me. My words, my instructions, do mean something in your life. So I care about you. I want to see you happy; I do not want to see you suffering, and I pray to Mahāprabhujī and Devpurījī. Another bhajan I want to translate is about the ātmā and the body. This bhajan is called "Śivo’ham." Give me that bhajan. Give me the text. I am Śiva. Śiva means pure consciousness. Shiva means beauty. Shiva means the truth. Shiva means liberation. And Śiva is the first one in the universe: the Swayambhū who created this entire universe. He is within the universe and outside of the universe. Śivo’ham, Śivo’ham, Vahiyātmā Sacchidānandame. I am that Ātmā, that Śiva: Sat, Cit, Ānanda. Sat is the truth. Cit is the consciousness. Ānanda is the bliss. That is the quality of Ātmā or God. God is the truth. God is pure consciousness. God is pure love, pure joy. Love is God, and God is love. I am that immortal Ātmā. So, someone should give me the text in Hindi language and not in Croatian. Thank you, that is good. Okay, thank you very much. I will still take time until I can read the Croatian, you know. This bhajan has a very high meaning; it is very full of wisdom. This bhajan can give you self-realization. To overcome all kinds of sufferings, all kinds of complexes, you can overcome them if you understand this bhajan. If you understand this bhajan, you can go through all the complexes. This bhajan can even solve the problem with a partner. I am immortal. The one who is immortal always exists. Akhil Viśvakā, which is the Supreme Soul, is that soul which is the soul of the entire universe. Just as you have your life within you, this universe has life within itself. The universe is living; it is not dead. That very reality of the universe is your reality also. You and that are one, not two. It is that universal soul, or Ātmā, which is dwelling in each and every creature. I am that Ātmā. Amara Ātmā—Ātmā is immortal, my friend. Marāṅsi, Lakāya. This body is mortal. This body will pass away. It is that Ātmā which exists in every creature, every entity, whether it is a small, tiny being or a big elephant. It does not depend on quantity, but on quality. It is in every atom. It is that Ātmā which no weapon can destroy—knife, gun, bombs. No weapon can destroy it. He says, "Fire cannot burn it." Even the water element cannot destroy it. Even death cannot remove that one, cannot kill it. That is your reality. It is my reality. It is everyone’s reality. That light that shines from every atom and every planet, that is the Ātmā. You are that one. That light which comes from the moon and sun, shining, radiating, that is the light of that Ātmā, that is the light of your Ātmā, yourself. You are that. And it can never happen that you are not there, here. You are always here. You are not passing away; you are not going away. Only the body is changing. The body is dying. This material body will change into other material. It will become very good fertilizer one day. It will become very nice fertilizer, and it will go again into the vegetation. Again, it will go to the food, to the corn, and again someone will eat it. And again, from there, creation will begin. That is called the recycling process. This body is also not destroyable; it is a recycling process. The form changes. Reality remains reality. It is present in each and every atom. It is present everywhere. And the ātmā cannot be destroyed, not in any of the three times—in the past, in the present, or in the future. It will never be destroyed. You were, you are, and you will be. Then why are you afraid of death? You will not die, because your reality is the immortal one. That Ātmā is never a sinner. To call the Ātmā a sinner is a great sin. That Ātmā has no karma. It does not produce any karma. It is above karma. Karma attacks those who are still in ignorance and involved in this Jīva. He is doing, but he is not doing. And he is not doing, but he is doing. That is Līlā, and we think she is doing. Therefore, the doer becomes the undoer, and the undoer becomes the doer. Nāhaṁkartā. You are not the doer. But if you have realized that level of consciousness, then only, otherwise not. You should use your intellect. Otherwise, you go with a knife and kill someone and say, "I am not doing it." That is not correct. The self-realized one will not do this. Therefore, there are some who are above karma, and there are some who still have karma. But when you come to the one who has no karma, then very soon you will also have no karma. When you go to the fire, everything will be burned. Only the pure quality will remain. Therefore, that Ātmā cannot be destroyed at any time. I am Ātmā. She is unborn and immortal. And that was declared by the Vedas. The same wisdom, the same knowledge was declared by Arjuna, by God Kṛṣṇa. Kṛṣṇa transferred to Arjuna. What? I am that immortal Ātmā. And you are also that immortal Ātmā. Listen. Moment. Today we want to sing. Today we want to sing without an instrument. Let your inner instrument play. You have to feel; you have to think. You have to think two things. One is your problem: your unhappiness, your illness, your suffering, your jealousy, your fear—all this, smile on you. I am not this all. I am Ātmā. So, on one side, these qualities; on the other side, these qualities. Śivo’ham, Śivo’ham,... Śivo’ham. What do you think? I am that Śiva. I am that Ātmā. Śivo’ham, Śivo’ham,... Śivo’ham. Jai Jñāna Arjuna, Koharī Nesunā, Jai Jñāna Arjuna, Kṛṣṇa teaches Arjuna. What did Kṛṣṇa teach to Arjuna? Vahiyama. Swamiji teaches you. What does Swamījī teach you? Śiva.

This text is transcribed and grammar corrected by AI. If in doubt what was actually said in the recording, use the transcript to double click the desired cue. This will position the recording in most cases just before the sentence is uttered.

The text contains hyperlinks in bold to three authoritative books on yoga, written by humans, to clarify the context of the lecture:

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