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Real Friendship

A spiritual discourse on the foundation of culture and the pursuit of supreme knowledge.

"The best education is in the lap of the parents."

"Therefore, the education, the saṃskāras which you can get—the best education is not at university... The best education is in the lap of the parents."

The lecturer addresses seekers at Guru Kulashram, emphasizing the parental role in imparting foundational cultural values (saṃskāras) to children. He expands the discussion to the importance of true friendship, the rarity of human life and spiritual guidance, and the transformative power of satsang and the Guru's grace. Using stories from scriptures and personal anecdotes about his Gurudev, he illustrates the path of Brahmavidyā, concluding with an urgent call for daily meditation and self-reflection to realize the divine within.

Filming location: Jadan, Rajasthan, India

Good evening, and blessings to all of you here in this hall and to all spiritual seekers and parents around the world. Blessings are coming to you from Holy Bhārat, Rājasthān, Viśvadīp Guru Kulāśram. Yesterday, we spoke on the subject of Brahmavidyā, where we defined the difference between knowledge and Vidyā. As long as you are studying or practicing, it is a tapasyā. Universally worshiped Bhagavān, Sadguru Swāmī Madhavānandajī Mahārāj, was once giving a talk in a school. In Nago district, Gurujī said, "Vidyādhyāna, study is a tapasyā, and the fruits of this tapasyā you will get in the future." It is the prime duty of parents to give motivation and inspiration to their children to study. Children are a raw material, and parents can make the model as they like. Those parents who do not have any feelings and abilities to educate the children at home before going to school—that child is lost. The parents have to give the saṃskāras, the education. Through the saṃskāra, the saṃskṛti, the culture is created. The culture protects our society. Therefore, it is said, children are the culture of tomorrow. In which direction the youth will go, in that direction the nation will go. Culture, the Sanskritī: where there is a human, there is a culture, and where there is a culture, there is a human. Wherever the human moves, they bring their culture with them. When you go from one house to another house, you bring your house culture, and you see the culture of the neighbor's house. It inspires you. It gives you some impressions, education. Similarly, if you go to other villages, travel through your country, or go abroad, you bring your culture with you. At the same time, you bring some color of the other cultures. Therefore, the education, the saṃskāras which you can get—the best education is not at university, not in college, not in middle high school or primary school or kindergarten. The best education is in the lap of the parents. > Jo śikṣā mātā pitā kī god mein miltī hai, voh na koi skūl mein miltī hai, na koi viśvavidyālay mein miltī hai, kahī nahī̃ miltī hai. Vah vidyā, vah śikṣā jo mātā pitā kī god mein miltī hai. The same thing when you get the satsaṅg or kushāṅga, the inspiration, the time comes when children feel out of the hands of the parents. And what happens? They become the victim of the outer world. Be sure no one loves you. No one loves you like your mother and father. Be sure. They may have some kind of ambition to get something from you. Maybe you have some friend for a while or something. But it's very hard to find true friends. Your decisions—you are the principal. It is you who are the master of your mud. It is best to be with weight, geduld, dharma, dhīraja, mitra, the friends. Arunari, your partner, your wife, or your husband. These four you can only know if they are truly yours or not in the critical time of your life, when there is no one there for you. Everyone leaves you, everyone blames you, or you have no money, you are poor, all friends go away, you are ill, you have a paralyzed brain hemorrhage. Now the question is, if your partner will stay with you, or he or she will say, "Well, I am sorry for you, but I think I am going to marry again somewhere, but I will look after you, take care of you, and give you money from time to time." What will remain with you, or for you to see? So similarly, when you go out of your house, the world does not love your skin; it loves your body. The world does not love you for who you are. That is why the day your child leaves your house, leave your hope. Now, pray to God that he gets good company. But the child who gets education in your lap, like a peacock's egg, will always give a colorful child. Therefore, the same thing I told about the children: when they are gone out of your house, they are not anymore in your hands. They are facing that destiny and critical situations. No one is there for you to feel pity. They will have sat down feelings to get from you, greed from you, use or misuse. Therefore, choose such a friend. In any case, he is ready to go with you, ready to give your life, and he gave his life for the parade that he had. Therefore, in Hindi language, we call him dost, what? Dosti, when you have one dost, it is one friend, and when they are together, it is called friendship. What? Friendship, that's called dosti. Do means two, and sat means truth. The truthful, the real friendship will never break, that's called the dosti. Therefore, friendship, partnership becomes one, not two. Friendship means to share, to be in one place. Similarly, if we are lucky enough and we are fortunate enough, then Ādi Guru Bhagavān Śaṅkarācārya said in his beautiful book, Viveka Cūḍāmaṇi. In Vivekacūḍāmaṇi, Śaṅkarācārya said it is rare to get a human life, then it is rare to get a spiritual family who have ācār, vicār, āhār, vihār—the character, the thoughts, the societies, and diet. Therefore, the Brahmins, the ṛṣis, they were more disciplined. Therefore, they were emphasizing more and more the Brahmins, because others did not have any kind of awareness about Āhār, Vihār, Āchār, and Vichār. Human life, the good spiritual parents, and also self-feeling interest towards going to the spirituality, and a spiritual master—these are for you. You are already at the gate. You are already crossing those, you know, you are already there at your destination. You are already near brahmaloka. Then it is a brahmajñāna. The brāhmaṇa, the priest, the paṇḍit who knows about brahmajñāna vidyā is in the schools, universities, but jñāna, the knowledge, is in the satsaṅg. Therefore, Bhagavān Dīp Nārāyaṇa Mahāprabhujī said: > So bhavo satsaṅg hari jāne badabhā gire jān pa. So bhavo satsaṅg hari jāne badabhā gire jān pa. So bhavo satsaṅg, jaise kīṭ bṛṅg saṅg hokar śabd sune ik sār. Jaise kīṭa bṛṅga saṅga hokar śabda sune, eka sāra guñja bīja ke bheda se, vaha bṛṅgī to ho yuddha jaya. Svabhāva sataḥ. What a glory of the satsaṅg. What a glory of the satsaṅg. And the fortunate ones have the luck and opportunity to attend the satsaṅg. Those who are fortunate are greatly lucky. A worm is taken by a wasp and brought into the mud house, which is made as a nest by the wasp. And how the wasp is treating, you know the story. That worm becomes a wasp also. That's called guru-vākya. That's called nāda yoga. Therefore, the guru kṛpā has... If your Guru Dev tells you the bitter words, the bhakti said is the most sweetness in these bitter words. Therefore, it is said that. That sound, those words, that upadeśa. Upadeśa comes from the Upaniṣad, which means the disciple who is sitting near the master and learning that Brahmavidyā. Few months ago, here was Mātājī, a series of Kānanjī Mahārāj, and he told a story about upadeśa. So who are you? You, the woman, you know one, it's not easy to be. But lucky are they who put their faith in God within few months or a month. Brahmavidyā is already within. Through meditation, within you is the ocean of bliss, and within you is the fountain of joy. Kill this little "I" and live the divine life. All the dormant energies in the human arise. In our human body, from the human birth, one can become God. God gives a shoe and tie. This all becomes Śiva through that satsaṅg and śanidhyā. Śanidhyā means the company of the Gurudeva. It is not to be done at the... You are a son. The day it is not to care for a Gurujī... One day, Gurujī said, "Throw him out of the ashram. He should read his life. You got a fee and good, don't come in front of me." So he was hiding himself behind the railway container. They would say to me, and he knew what I'm good at. "You will go for a walk, but good, it all gone, come in front of me." So he was hiding and looking. This is Gurudev. And someday Gurudev was gone somewhere, but he was told by Gurujī, "Stay only there." So he was singing there because Gurujī didn't come for one month. Therefore, he said, in that critical situation, longing, longing, that's called viraha. Viraha agni, the most, most intensive fire within us, is viraha. Mirabai was constantly burning in the Vairāgiṇī. Bhagavān Dīp Nārāyaṇa Mahāprabhujī's bhajan book, Padāvirāṇī. These are all bhajans full of the vīra. So he was longing, and he was saying, "Itanā ṭukarnā gurujī darśana jaldī denā." That's it. So Brahmavidyā, it is the Nābhi Kamal, starts from the Nābhi Kamal. And in this summer, we have the instruction seminars, and many of you had the first few instructions of the Brahmavidyā kriyā, and people were very much uplifted. They felt great. It will come, satsaṅg, such a Sudhā... You have to be a human being to get up and chant the name of the Lord. Hanumān jī went to Laṅkā, and there he saw all the demons. Still, Hanumān jī thought that someone must be there somewhere. So, Hanumān jī was leaving in a subtle form. Then he heard a voice. What voice did he hear? "Śrī Rām, Jai Rām, Śrī Rām." Who said it? Vibhīṣaṇa will rise in the form of Brahmā in the morning. "Shri Rām, Jai Rām, Shri Rām." Hanumān Jī thought that he was actually a devotee of the Lord. Then Hanumān Jī changed the form, took the form of a Brahmin, and knocked at his door. So what does Vibhīṣaṇa say? "Boy, a borosha hair? No, man. Ta Rāma kṛpā be Nene Santa." So, there are good people, they are divine people. How to know? Hanumānjī went to Sri Lanka, and he... so there are only people, or negative people, drinking, eating, full of rajas and tamas guṇas, full of desires, stink the whole body. Stink of the desires, no good consciousness, no pure, no love, no viraha. Hanumān jī was very surprised, but Hanumān jī thought, "Definitely, there must be someone. One or two bhakti must be, otherwise even Śrī Laṅkā will not survive." And when you said, "Yes, surviving the Śrī Laṅkā," because Mother Sītā is here, Sītā Mātā is here. Otherwise, abhi tak toh Laṅkā ko me bhasma kar deta, kikagni. Otherwise, till now, the whole Lanka would have turned into the sea. But Sītā Mātā is there, but there must be someone more. Early morning, Brahma Muhūrta, 3:30, he begins to search. At 4 o'clock in the morning, at the first dawn, Hanumanjī was walking, listening. If there is anyone, Prabhukapyara, the beloved of God, the lover of God—God loves us, we are His lover. Is there someone who will get up in Brahmamuhūrta and the first word will be in the name of my Lord? One man woke up, and he rubbed his palms and put his hands on his face. He said, "Oh my God!" Hanumānjī said, "My two liters of blood increased in my body." How happy to hear the name of my God, my beloved, my love! Whenever we hear the name of Mahāprabhujī, we do hand fault karte. Devpurījī, we hand fault karte, Gurujī. When we talk of the Gurujī, when we see the picture of Gurujī, how happy we are inside. And when you see your enemy, how unhappy you are. So, Hanumānjī changed his form. He became like a sadhu: mala, lungi, adhoti, and kurta. Not the jinn. Jinn is what we call the ghost, the spirit, you know? A jinn has only two positions: either standing or lying. It can't sit. And you mind him but knocking on the door, the big show rounds. Brother, he looked through the window, and the mind, the smile, you know, I'm on yet such a very royal movement. It is, and the big show, the cognize who is there, because the big show knew that on the money there, the big since a with the quality and more a bar or so. I have no man. I'll tell you, man, I do have the plate and expectations, more or less. I have no one, though, on the mind. The honey, keep our being the million percent. Without the grace of the Lord, the blessings of the Lord, you cannot meet the sādhu, the sant. Therefore, it is said, Tulsī Dās: "Santa Samāgama Harikathā, or Tulasī durlabha, doī. Should the darśana or Lakṣmī pāpī kī beho? Santa Samāgama to have a darśana and satsaṅg of the Santa, the Samāgama Harikathā, and where there is a son, or is spoken about God, Tulasī durlabha, do it." We will see that he said, "These are the rare," and now in Kali, where it is more rare and rare, so that our Lakshmi, pāpī, give you children and husband or wife. Even the sinners can have, and money also sinners can have, but Santa Samāgam Harikathā to see through. This is the Brahma Vidyā, Brahma Jñāna, Brahma Kriyā. When we will learn to meditate, every morning get up and say the name of the Gurudev, and inside greet with folded hands. Be thankful that God, Gurudev, have... I have awakened you in Brahmajñāna. Gurthā. "O Dādī Māri, Nindāḍālī, Satguru Śyām Murār, O Dādī Māri, Nindāḍālī, My Gurudev has taken away my sleep." Janam Janam says, "Many, many lives we are sleeping." This human life is given to get the Brahmajñāna. But look in your inner mirror, woke up. There's one Gītā: "Mukhada dekha darpaṇam eterak." So that I am, Hannibal prani, the mukhada they clearly darpaṇam eterak eterna achakar mekita nakota. I was a job agent, Gītā. So look within thy inner mirror, keep it not tomorrow and the suit. Your chart, hey, how much truth and lies do you have within you? How much did you deceive others? How much did you try to make others believe in you? How much did you make them believe in you? You have not made others believe in you. You have made yourself believe in you. "Guṅgo gur khāy man mein śabdaan." Look within the inner mirror. So meditation is a technique to look within thyself, into your subconsciousness. Look in your unconscious, subconscious, conscious, higher conscious, cosmic conscious, and then the Brahmanic, super consciousness, that Brahman. Every morning, if you cannot meditate more, at least five minutes. Sit up from your bed and sit there, and for five minutes, praṇām. Make mine seek Pooja of your altar there, then get up and go and wash your hands and mouth, and so on, and do your sādhanā, āsana, prāṇāyāma. So then your human life will be successful, otherwise khānā pīnā. Bhogna pursue visa param sujan khana, but she peda karna or so jana ninda nana. The John very good, maybe sleeping, eating, and drinking, and creating children. Then he was that also very expert, or human, you are doing only that much, then ready to be friend between animals and you. Therefore, good they say by. To my job go or a data, I was said. Be to my job go or a data, I was said. "Tera avasar beeta jaa, thara dinada ghatta jaa, thari omar beeti jaa. Bhai, tum re tera avasar beeta jai, Nind avidyat hi tere nind avidyat chai, Janam dukh paye bhai, Re tum janam janam dukh paye, Tera avasar beeta jaye, Moha jaal ki phansi mein, Tum moha jaal kio makari jo mar jaye. Kyo makari jo mar jaye, tera avasar beeta jaye. Manush janma yamola k hero, manush janma yamola k hero re. Tha ne baar baar nahi paayi tera avsar, satguru charan siddha na pyaare. Satguru janam safal ho jaye bhai, tera janam safal ho jaye bhai, tera avasar beeta jaye bhai, tera avasar beeta jaye bhai." Shri Pūjya Bhagavān Dīna Hansa, Chetā Ye Bhai Tum Re Mera Dīna Hansa, Jagā Ye Bhai Tum, Terā Avasar Bīta Jaye Bhai, Terā avsar bītā jāye bhai. Shrī Mādhāvanāñjī yoge avatārī, Shrī Mādhāvanāñjī yoge Pyaare sabhī suno chitla Bhāī, tum jāgo re. Pyaare sabhī suno chitla Bhāī, tum jāgo re, terā dindra ghaṭṭā jāye. Deep Nārāyaṇ Bhagavān kī, Dev Puruṣa Mahādev kī, Dharma Samrāṭ, Satguru Svāmī Madhavānjī Bhagavān kī. Oṁ Satyam Sadgamaya, Tamaso Mā Jyotirgamaya, Mṛtyormā Amṛtaṁ Gamaya. Sarveṣāṁ Svastiraṁ, Sarveṣāṁ Śāntiraṁ, Sarveṣāṁ Maṅgalaṁ, Sarveṣāṁ Pūrṇam. Loka samasta sukhino bhavantu. Om tryambhakam yajāmahe sugandhim puṣṭi vardhanam, urvārukam iva bandhanān mṛtyor mukṣīya māmṛtāt. Om śāntiḥ śāntiḥ śāntiḥ.

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