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The foundation of culture and the path to Brahmavidyā begins with parental education. Culture is created through the saṃskāras given by parents, and this culture protects society. The best education is received in the lap of parents, not in formal institutions. When children leave home, they face the outer world where true love is rare; the world loves your money, not you. In critical times, only true friendship and partnership are tested. A human birth is rare, and to be born into a spiritual family with right conduct is rarer still. Spiritual progress requires a master's guidance and the company of satsaṅg, where divine knowledge is found. Meditation is the technique to look within and awaken to the Brahman within. A human life spent only on eating and sleeping is wasted.

"Vidyādhyāna, study, is a tapasyā, an austerity, and the fruits of this tapasyā you will get in the future."

"Therefore, the education, the saṃskāras which you can get—the best education is not at university... The best education is in the lap of the parents."

Filming location: Jadan, Rajasthan, India

Good evening, and blessings to all of you here in this hall and to all spiritual seekers and parents around the world. Blessings are coming to you from Holy Bhārat, Rājasthān, Viśvadīp Guru Kulāśram. Yesterday, we spoke on the subject of Brahmavidyā, including the definition of the difference between knowledge and Vidyā. As long as you are studying or practicing, it is a tapasyā. Universally worshiped Bhagavān, Sadguru Swāmī Madhavānandajī Mahārāj was once giving a talk in a school in Nago district. Gurujī said, "Vidyādhyāna, study, is a tapasyā, an austerity, and the fruits of this tapasyā you will get in the future." It is the prime duty of parents to give motivation and inspiration to their children to study. Children are a raw material, and parents can make the model as they like. Those parents who do not have any feelings and abilities to educate the children at home before going to school—that child is lost. The parents have to give the saṃskāras, the education. Through the saṃskāra, the saṃskṛti, the culture is created. The culture protects our society. Therefore, it is said, children are the culture of tomorrow. In which direction the youth will go, in that direction the nation will go. Culture, the Sanskritī: where there is a human, there is a culture, and where there is a culture, there is a human. Wherever the human moves, they bring their culture with them. When you go from one house to another house, you bring your house culture, and you see the culture of the neighbor’s house. It inspires you. It gives you some impressions, education. Similarly, if you go to other villages, travel through your country, or go abroad, you bring your culture with you. At the same time, you bring some color of the other cultures. Therefore, the education, the saṃskāras which you can get—the best education is not at university, not in college, not in middle high school or primary school or kindergarten. The best education is in the lap of the parents. Jo śikṣā mātā pitā kī god mein miltī hai, voh na koi skūl mein miltī hai, na koi viśvavidyālay mein miltī hai, kahī nahī̃ miltī hai. Vah vidyā, vah śikṣā jo mātā pitā kī... The same thing happens when you get satsaṅg or kushāṅga, the inspiration. The time comes when children feel out of the hands of the parents, and what happens? They become the victim of the outer world. Be sure no one loves you. No one loves you like your mother and father. Be sure. They may have some kind of ambition to get something from you. Maybe you have some friend for a while or something, but it’s very hard to find true friends. Your decisions—you are the principal. It is you who are the master of your own mud. It is best to be aware of geduld, dharma, dhīraja, mitra, the friends. Arunari, your partner, your wife, or your husband. You can only know if these four are truly yours or not in the critical time of your life, when there is no one there for you. Everyone leaves you, everyone blames you, or you have no money, you are poor, all friends go away, you are ill, you have a paralyzed brain hemorrhage. Now the question is: will your partner stay with you, or will he or she say, "Well, I am sorry for you, but I think I am going to marry again somewhere, but I will look after you, take care of you, and give you money from time to time"? What will remain with you, or for you to see? In a critical situation, people mostly want what they need or desire. When they don’t get something, then they are against you. Similarly, when you go out of your house... The world does not love your skin; it loves your money. An old man sitting on a bed was asked, "Why don’t you go to the satsaṅg?" People are sitting on the bed, why don’t you watch TV? Yes, our mother-in-law used to say, "Till the time I am here, I will not be able to do anything." She used to throw the needle into the neighbor’s house. This should not happen. That is why the day your child leaves your house, leave your hope. Now, pray to God that he gets good company. But the child who gets education in your lap—a peacock's egg will always give a colorful child. Therefore, the same thing I told about the children: when they are gone out of your house, they are not anymore in your hands. They are facing that destiny and critical situations. No one is there for you to feel pity. They will have selfish feelings to get from you, greed from you, to use or misuse. Therefore, choose such a friend who, in any case, is ready to go with you, ready to give your life. He gave his life for the parade that he had. Therefore, in Hindi language, we call him dost. What is dosti? When you have one dost, it is one friend, and when they are together, it is called friendship. What is friendship? That’s called dosti. Do means two, and sat means truth. The truthful, the real friendship will never break; that’s called the dosti. Therefore, friendship, partnership becomes one, not two. Friendship means to share, to be in one place. Similarly, if we are lucky enough and we are fortunate enough, then Ādi Guru Bhagavān Śaṅkarācārya said in his beautiful book, Vivekacūḍāmaṇi. In Vivekacūḍāmaṇi, Śaṅkarācārya said it is rare to get a human life. Then it is rare to get a spiritual family who have ācār, vicār, āhār, vihār—the character, the thoughts, the societies, and diet. Therefore, the Brahmins, the ṛṣis, they were more disciplined. That is why they were emphasizing more and more on the Brahmins, because others did not have any kind of awareness about Āhār, Vihār, Ācār, and Vicār. Human life, good spiritual parents, and also self-feeling interest towards going to the spirituality, and then, a spiritual master guides you. You are already at the gate. You are already crossing; you are already there at your destination. You are already near brahmaloka. Then it is the brahmajñāna. The brāhmaṇa, the priest, the paṇḍit who knows about brahmajñāna vidyā is in the schools, universities, but jñāna, the knowledge, is in the satsaṅg. Therefore, Bhagavān Dīp Nārāyaṇa Mahāprabhujī said: So bhavo satsaṅg hari jāne badabhā gire jān pa. So bhavo satsaṅg hari jāne badabhā gire jān pa. So bhavo satsaṅg, jaise kīṭ bṛṅg saṅg hokar śabd sune ik sār. Jaise kīṭa bṛṅga saṅga hokar śabda sune, eka sāra guñja bīja ke bheda se, vaha bṛṅgī to ho yuddha jaya. Svabhāva sataḥ. What a glory of the satsaṅg! And the fortunate ones have the luck and opportunity to attend the satsaṅg. Those who are fortunate are greatly lucky. A worm is taken by a wasp and brought into the mud house, which is made as a nest by the wasp. And how the wasp is treating it, you know the story. That worm becomes a wasp also. That’s called guru-vākya. That’s called nāda yoga. Therefore, the guru kṛpā has... If your Gurudev tells you bitter words, the devotee finds the most sweetness in these bitter words. Therefore, it is said... That sound, those words, that upadeśa. Upadeśa comes from the Upaniṣad, which means the disciple who is sitting near the master and learning that Brahmavidyā. Few months ago, here was a series of Kānanjī Mahārāj, and he told a story about upadeśa. It is not easy to be lucky. Lucky are they who get upadeśa from God within few months or a month. Brahmavidyā is already within. Through meditation, within you is the ocean of bliss, and within you is the fountain of joy. Kill this little "I" and live the divine life. All the dormant energies in the human rise. In our human body, from human birth, one can become God. This all becomes Śiva through that satsaṅg and śanidhyā. Śanidhyā means the company of the Gurudeva. It is not to be taken lightly. One day, a disciple was told by Gurujī, "Stay only there." So he was staying there because Gurujī didn’t come for one month. Therefore, he said, in that critical situation, longing—that’s called viraha. Viraha agni, the most, most intensive fire within us, is viraha. Mīrābāī was constantly burning in the Vairāgiṇī. Bhagavān Dīp Nārāyaṇa Mahāprabhujī’s bhajan book, Padāvirāṇī—these are all bhajans full of the vīra. So he was longing, and he was saying, "Itanā ṭukarnā gurujī darśana jaldī denā." That’s it. So Brahmavidyā, it starts from the Nābhi Kamal. In this summer, we have the instruction seminars, and many of you had the first few instructions of the Brahmavidyā kriyā, and people were very much uplifted. They felt great. You have to be a human being to get up and chant the name of the Lord. Hanumānjī went to Laṅkā, and there he saw all the demons. Still, Hanumānjī thought that someone must be there somewhere. So, Hanumānjī was leaving in a subtle form. Then he heard a voice. What voice did he hear? "Śrī Rām, Jai Rām, Śrī Rām." Who said it? Vibhīṣaṇa. He will rise in the form of Brahmā in the morning. "Śrī Rām, Jai Rām, Śrī Rām." Hanumānjī thought that he was actually a devotee of the Lord. Then Hanumānjī changed his form, took the form of a Brahmin, and knocked at his door. So what does Vibhīṣaṇa say? "Ta Rāma kṛpā be Nene Santa." So, there are good people, divine people. How to know? Hanumānjī went to Sri Lanka, and he saw people full of negative qualities, drinking, eating, full of desires—the tāmasika guṇas. They stink the whole body with the stink of desires, no good consciousness, no purity, no love, no viraha. Hanumānjī was very surprised, but he thought, "Definitely, there must be someone. One or two devotees must be there, otherwise even Śrī Laṅkā would not survive." And when you said, "Yes, surviving the Śrī Laṅkā," because Mother Sītā is here. Otherwise, abhi tak toh Laṅkā ko me bhasma kar deta, kikagni. Otherwise, till now, the whole Lanka would have turned into the sea. But Sītā Mātā is there, and there must be someone more. Early morning, Brahma Muhūrta, 3:30, he begins to search. At 4 o’clock in the morning, at the first dawn, Hanumanjī was walking, listening. Is there anyone, Prabhukapyara, the beloved of God? God loves us; we are His lover. Is there someone who will get up in Brahmamuhūrta and whose first word will be in the name of my Lord? One man woke up, and he rubbed his palms and put his hands on his face. He said, "Oh my God!" Hanumānjī said, "My two liters of blood increased in my body." How happy to hear the name of my God, my beloved, my love! Whenever we hear the name of Mahāprabhujī, we do hāth jod karte. Devpurījī, we do hāth jod karte, Gurujī. When we talk of the Gurujī, when we see the picture of Gurujī, how happy we are inside. And when you see your enemy, how unhappy you are. So, Hanumānjī changed his form. He became like a sādhu: mālā, lungī, adhotī, and kurtā. Not the jinn. Jinn is what we call the ghost, the spirit. A jinn has only two positions: either standing or lying. It can’t sit. He knocked on the door. Brother, he looked through the window... Without the grace of the Lord, the blessings of the Lord, you cannot meet the sādhu, the sant. Therefore, it is said by Tulsī Dās: Santa Samāgama Harikathā, or Tulasī durlabha, doī. Santa Samāgama to have a darśana and satsaṅg of the Santa, the Samāgama Harikathā, and where there is a satsaṅg, God is spoken about. Tulasī durlabha, do it. These are rare. And now in Kaliyuga, it is more and more rare. Lakṣmī, pāpī—even sinners can have children and husband or wife. Even sinners can have money, but Santa Samāgama Harikathā is very rare to see. This is the Brahmavidyā, Brahmajñāna, Brahmakriyā. When we learn to meditate, every morning get up and say the name of the Gurudev, and inside greet with folded hands. Be thankful that God, Gurudev, has awakened you in Brahmajñāna. Gurthā. O Dādī Māri, Nindāḍālī, Satguru Śyām Murār, O Dādī Māri, Nindāḍālī. My Gurudev has taken away my sleep. Janam Janam says, "Many, many lives we are sleeping." This human life is given to get the Brahmajñāna. But look in your inner mirror. Wake up. There’s one Gītā: "Mukhada dekha darpaṇam eterak." So look within thy inner mirror. Keep it not for tomorrow. How much truth and lies do you have within you? How much did you deceive others? How much did you try to make others believe in you? You have not made others believe in you; you have made yourself believe in you. Guṅgo gur khāy man mein śabdaan. Look within the inner mirror. So meditation is a technique to look within thyself, into your subconsciousness. Look in your unconscious, subconscious, conscious, higher conscious, cosmic conscious, and then the Brahmanic, super consciousness—that Brahman. Every morning, if you cannot meditate more, at least five minutes. Sit up from your bed and sit there, and for five minutes, praṇām. Do a mental pūjā of your altar, then get up and go and wash your hands and mouth, and so on, and do your sādhanā, āsana, prāṇāyāma. Then your human life will be successful. Otherwise, it is just khānā pīnā. Bhogna pursue visa param sujan khana, but she peda karna or so jana ninda nana. Just sleeping, eating, drinking, and creating children. If you are doing only that much, then you are ready to be a friend between animals and you. Therefore, it is said: Tera avasar Bhai, tum re tera avasar beeta jai, Nind avidyat hi tere nind avidyat chai, Janam dukh paye bhai, Re tum janam janam dukh paye, Tera avasar beeta jaye, Moha jaal ki phansi mein, Tum moha jaal kio makari jo mar jaye. Kyo makari jo mar jaye, tera avasar beeta jaye. Manush janma yamola k hero, manush janma yamola k hero re. Tha ne baar baar nahi paayi tera avsar, satguru charan siddha na pyaare. Satguru janam safal ho jaye bhai, tera janam safal ho jaye bhai, tera avasar beeta jaye bhai, tera avasar beeta jaye bhai. Shri Pūjya Bhagavān Dīna Hansa, Chetā Ye Bhai Tum Re Mera Dīna Hansa, Jagā Ye Bhai Tum, Terā Avasar Bīta Jaye Bhai, Terā avsar bītā jāye bhai. Shrī Mādhāvanāñjī yoge avatārī, Shrī Mādhāvanāñjī yoge Pyaare sabhī suno chitla Bhāī, tum jāgo re. Pyaare sabhī suno chitla Bhāī, tum jāgo re, terā dindra ghaṭṭā jāye. Deep Nārāyaṇ Bhagavān kī, Dev Puruṣa Mahādev kī, Dharma Samrāṭ, Satguru Svāmī Madhavānjī Bhagavān kī. Oṁ Satyam Sadgamaya, Tamaso Mā Jyotirgamaya, Mṛtyormā Amṛtaṁ Gamaya. Sarveṣāṁ Svastiraṁ, Sarveṣāṁ Śāntiraṁ, Sarveṣāṁ Maṅgalaṁ, Sarveṣāṁ Pūrṇam. Om tryambhakam yajāmahe sugandhim puṣṭi vardhanam, urvārukam iva bandhanān mṛtyor mukṣīya māmṛtāt. Om śāntiḥ śāntiḥ śāntiḥ.

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