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The Foundation of Faith and Family

A spiritual discourse addressing modern family life, faith, and traditional values through stories and teachings.

"Children who drank the mother's milk, his brain, memory power, and his intellect remain in harmony. Otherwise, he loses his compassion, love, and affection."

"A wound cut with a knife can be healed, but a wound cut with words can never be healed in the heart."

The speaker, likely a spiritual teacher, critiques modern parenting practices like daycare and babysitters, arguing they erode a child's foundational faith and respect for parents. He shares parables and personal anecdotes to illustrate the causes of familial discord and the supreme importance of faith, concluding with an extended allegory about a devotee named Sonāmukhī Dās whose unwavering faith leads to miraculous protections for a kingdom.

Filming location: Jaipur, Rajasthan, India

O Dhyāgurumūrati, pūjā mūlaṁ gurur padam. Mantra mūlaṁ gurur vākyam. Mokṣa mūlaṁ gurur kṛpā. Oṁ śānti, śānti, śānti. Deep Nārāyaṇ Bhagavānkī. Deveśvar Mahādevkī. Madhav Krishna Bhagavān kī. Sanātana Dharma kī. Dovāyī Kām Kare. Anant Brahmāṇḍ Kī Racanā. Śraṣṭi kī pālan kartā. Ghat Ghat Mein Rehne Vāle Parabrahma Paramātmā Ko Śata-Śata Naman. Ārādī Śrī Gurudev Kī Śubh Caraṇ Kamalā Me. Kotī Kotī Śāṣṭāṅg Daṇḍavat. Parampitā Paramatmā Gurudev ke sabhī bhakt, sajan, mātā hai. Mānav kā jīvan, Parampitā Paramātmā ne param kripā kar ke aisā jīvan diyā, jise kī manuṣya sabhī kush prapt kar śakta hai. Lekin kaha hai ki jo ichhā kar hi manmahi, Hari kṛpā durlabh nahī. Manav jo bhi ichhā kartā hai, achchhī yā burī, with his inner strength, with his inner soul, with his jīvātmā, with his antahkaraṇa, if he does it with his heart, then he becomes successful. To do good karmas, we need good thoughts, good feelings, intellect, and wisdom. The first thing that we need is knowledge, education, and values in the lap of our parents. The children who are fortunate are the ones who have been loved by their parents for many years. In today's age, children are sent to a school called nursery school. Nursery means where trees and plants are grown. Children are not trees and plants. In the German language, it is called Kindergarten. But when you send a child to that nursery school, 99% of the children cry. We will not go. Even then, you send them. When they go there, you give them something to play with. And for some time, you keep them lovingly. Later in the afternoon, you feed them and let them sleep, and those children get scared. Go and say, "Calm down, son. Go to sleep." This creates a fear in their half-conscious mind. When they have to go to the bathroom, they still cannot do it in that way. As they are small children, it happens according to nature. There are also children who do not know who their mother is. Because they stay there for six to seven hours in the kindergarten. And in the second generation, babysitter. This is also a big disease these days. That, before giving birth to a child, you arrange for a babysitter. And the babysitter, what do both the husband and wife do? They go to parties. I have got a baby-sitter. My child is going to kindergarten. Now, that babysitter makes the child sleep at home. He watches television. He tells the child to stay quiet and sleep. So there too, fear enters his subconscious mind. Secondly, he makes him drink the bottle of milk. That they give milk in a bottle, so he didn't even drink the mother's milk. He didn't even touch the mother's body; he didn't touch the baby with the mother's soft hands. How will he respect his parents? He doesn't know that in our kindergarten, he is not a teacher, he is a mother, or the babysitter is my mother, or my mother is that. It will be known after some time, but the respect that should be there for the parents does not remain in their hearts. That is why today this is a very big problem. Children tell their parents, "You can kill our wealth and do it in our name." We need so much money, I have the right to be born. All of us who have been sitting here for 50, 60, 70 years, have we ever said this to our parents? But where is the testament? We have to search the testament. So, does the cow walk side by side? Look at nature. Your ducks, they are also swimming in the water. The small children teach them. As soon as the mother goes there, the children will go. And whoever goes to the lake, near the lake, they will also go and sit there. And if they are going alone to eat, then she gives instructions. And the male comes and sits there, where all the children are sitting. And I don't know what language that mother speaks, those children don't get up, they sit there. See how much love there is between mother and father. Mother's heart is different. So this is a true story. In America, it happened that a family member had a baby and gave it to a babysitter. So from morning to evening, they come home and go to the party, go to the cinema, go somewhere else, and the babysitter stays there. So the woman who was looking at the child fell in love with the child so much that she thought the child was her own. And the other children came and said, "Alright, everything is okay. Did you eat my child? Alright, darling, now you go to sleep, okay? See you tomorrow." Thank you, tomorrow. Or they will have to undergo an operation. His wife was from China. She was also a doctor. She was working. She came on holiday. Her youngest daughter, who was about five months old, had a phone. She saw something broken, woke up, and was crying. I said, "What's that?" She said, "This is my daughter sleeping in a room." I have this instrument; if anything happens, I can see what happens to her. And after that, this is her sleeping room, and we are sleeping upstairs. Anytime if she's restless or this, we can see in this. We go and help her. This is true. A small girl of four to five months is sleeping in the lower room. These two are sleeping in the upper room. An instrument, a camera, should be observed to see how the girl is. They will not serve their parents when they grow up. So, faith is lost, and this is the sad thing in our modern world. That the human being is being separated from the human being. So, that babysitter said that this is my child. And the other one said, "This is my child." She told the doctors that this is her child. But she said, "No, it is my child." This case went on for three to four years. Then a psychologist came to the judge. He asked, "Who is the real mother? How do we find out?" The judge said, "I will not do this, but I will say that I will do something." But I will not act exactly. The lawyer said, "It has been 5 years for one child. You all are so worried." So, they do this so that the child's neck can be cut off, and they take out the sword. And in this way, the real mother says, "No, no..." Don't do this. Give him this, but don't do this at this time. Maa kā Jīv, then this is a real mother, not that one. Toh wo mā kā prem jo hai, mātā pitā ke prati hume itnā jagrat rakhna chāhiye. Yeh nahi hai ki paise hi sab kush hai. Humare desh mein aasik 10-20 saal pehle, 40 barsh pehle ek kisi office me koi mahila ko kaam karta dekhte, toh vade achchamba karte ki aam ek mahila kaam kar rahi hai. And today it's 50-50, no problem, it's okay, do it. But when you want to marry and give birth to a child, then it is very important for the mother to stay at home. And the mother should drink milk. The child who drank the mother's milk, his brain, memory power, and his intellect remain in harmony. Otherwise, he loses his compassion, love, and affection. Just by studying a little bit, you don't become a human being. Faith, faith. The faith in small children, the faith in their parents, should not be removed. Otherwise, it seems that you can remove a child who is drinking milk. Rejecting your child, when there is a small child, they feel very sad. So, according to me, nursery schools should be banned by law. Children should be kept at home for six years. You can teach them, your mother can teach them at home. And if you send them to school after six years, their brain develops. For six years, your child comes into third grade. In foreign countries, nobody will send children to school before six years. Even one month is missing in six years, so you have to go back in September. In Austria, Germany, and Europe, the first of September school begins, so there are new children who are six years old. If the child is one year, eleven months old, then... They will not go to school; kindergarten is there also. They are also in the same boat. Now you are in the same boat. So the first thing is that saving our country's culture is a favor to our parents, a favor to our children, and to those who have good thoughts in their hearts. Otherwise, the second one becomes a thief, also steals, and does many things. That little kids do it in the school, they take chocolate in the morning and eat it. They see the nurse, the school teacher, the little one. What are you doing? They sit like this. Little kids have seen me. And they do it there slowly. They will eat in front of the mother. But they are afraid of it. The one who has been afraid since childhood, this fear will harm him for the rest of his life. There was a big problem with the couple. Husband and wife had a good relationship. Both of them used to live in peace and harmony in the house. Both of them had the same body. The wife would get up and go to get water. The husband would say, "You sit, I will get it." She would iron the clothes, and the husband would go and help her. After the meal, she wanted to take the plate, but her husband said, "No, I will pick it up." That means both of them were so close that they were working together. Today, she ate and drank, stood up, and she will do the same. And today, women also have this: the husband comes home, the television will be on; the mother comes home, she will go to the kitchen and cook. The child says, "Mother, I have to cook." And the husband also says, "Are you not ready to eat?" She herself is watching television. Look, the husband and wife have one mother who is very intelligent. So why are you getting divorced today? They had such great respect for each other. But as soon as they went out of the house in a party, they started fighting so much that they became enemies. And when they came back home, in half an hour, there was nothing. They went to a good mental doctor, gave medicines, did research, went out of the house, and sat in a rickshaw. Either he comes down and comes back, or she comes down and comes back. So, this psychological, some of the things are disturbing our earth consciousness. There is some impression in our earth consciousness. It is disturbing. So, someone like our doctor went to him and said that he has not done mental science. So what those people do is they sit down and ask you, "How much do you remember the story of your entire life?" So they asked that child and that man as well, "What happened? What happened? What happened?" They kept asking, asking, asking. They asked, "Is there any such incident?" So he said, "Yes, I did not understand one thing." And that is still not coming to my mind. That what? That my mother went to the bathroom to take a bath. She was taking a bath in the bathroom, and I was playing outside. I was only three years old. You think a two- or three-year-old kid doesn't notice? He does a lot. While playing, the kid opened the bathroom door. His mother took a bath and reached for the body with a towel. There was a dirty towel lying on the floor. As soon as he opened the door, he took the towel and placed it on his body. He thought someone else might have come, and he closed the door and said, "Son, you don't open the door like this, son." And then she came back in her clothes. He was playing, a two- to three-year-old child. But that child was thinking, after the mother bathed, after taking a good bath, why did she put these dirty clothes on her body again? There is something special about these clothes. They are not good. Then he said, "Okay." He said, "As long as your wife is at home wearing a house dress, you will feel good." And when you go out, you will not feel good if your wife wears makeup, and you will not feel good. This is a fight. Is this the case? Yes, this is the case. Yesterday, both of them wore clothes and said that there was no fight. The doubt inside came out. There are many such small incidents in family life. If it is not clarified, then we will suffer for the rest of our life. There comes a time when the husband and wife get into a big fight. There is another story. We had a psychologist. He said that he made a very good pair. It is an old story. They got married. After two days of marriage, I don't know what happened between them, that that woman doesn't even talk to that husband. When he wakes up in the morning and says, "Good morning," his wife looks at him in the window and says, "Good morning." She makes food for him, but he doesn't tell her, "Would you like to eat?" Both of them lived a life which is hard to describe. But when they went out of the house, they were very sociable. They were very sociable. They were very sociable. ... They were very sociable. This is the bell of Kāśī. If there is a crack in it, then there is no sound. Where did the crack go? And where did the milk go? The milk explodes, but the butter does not come out. Where did the lamp go? Where did the flame go? This year is our golden jubilee of marriage. It doesn't matter if he was happy or not. He decorated a very big table with butter, bread, cheese, fish, and so on for breakfast. His husband says, "Dear, today is our golden jubilee of our wedding." She says, "Yes, I know, but these 50 years were like hell for me." He says, "They were and still are like hell for me." But what is the reason? I try everything to do something for you, she says. The reason is that you are very selfish. You are very selfish. Where? For what? Since the time we met in school, we were always together. And when we used to sit for breakfast, the bread that is made in Europe is bread. The bread that you have here is thick. It's a sponge. The amount of bread you bring, you can sell it like this. But in Germany, Austria, and Europe, apart from England, what do your British rulers call their game? No, no. Commonwealth. The Commonwealth has the same bread in the whole country, in the whole world. But if you eat the bread of Austria, it is as if you are eating corn. It is as if you are eating the bread of Bajra. It is so delicious. You can put butter on it. You can even toast it. When Gurujī came, he said, "Mahesh, I want to eat it." So they cut the bread with a knife. It is very good. It is hard. But the specialty of that bread is that it has the last part. It is a little hard. It is good. They consider it good. If you give that part to someone, he will be very happy. So what this man did was that he would cut the bread, but he would keep the bitter part on his table. He wanted to feed me one day too. So she says that we had met each other for ten years. But if you do this, I thought that it would never change. But you haven't changed even after marriage. You eat that bread and give me the other part. It is soft in the middle. Then he said, "I think that you don't like bitter things. I will eat the bitter ones and give you the soft, soft ones." This is it? Yes, this is the reason. So what to do? Then he said, "Take this, eat the bitter one, I will eat that." He fell in love. Then he said, "Your golden jubilee." She said, "No, darling, it is honeymoon." For a small thing, it becomes a delusion that a person is sad all his life because he has no faith, but distrust. To get rid of that distrust, in the field of mental science, one should think, "For what reasons do I make others angry or sad?" And if you have faith, then what can't be done? There is a small view on that. See that happiness and sorrow are in everyone's house. But we have a saying here that all people, even the family, love you with love, not with skin. If you have a good child, but he doesn't do anything, he keeps sleeping at home. When they grow up to be 20 or 25 years old, they will say that you are working hard, but you are a poor man. And they will say that you work hard, but you are a wise man. So, in one family, there was a child. There were three or four brothers. But one of them died of some disease. So the poor man couldn't stand on his own two feet. He was given a room. He would ask for food and bring it. He wanted to die soon. Even for water, the whole family used to look at him with remorse. They neglected him. Once he said, "I am thirsty." Get me some water. I am thirsty. So, one of the members of that family said, "If you keep bothering me like this, it will be better if you die." So, he said, everyone said that he was hurt, but he did not get hurt. He was hurt, but he got hurt in the beginning. A wound cut with a knife can be healed, but a wound cut with words can never be healed in the heart. Nobody talks about it all their life. The elephant doesn't speak, the camel doesn't speak, the buffalo doesn't speak either. The buffalo, whether it is a buffalo or a cow, takes the bear and leaves it. One day, revenge should come. Revenge. Whether it is a lion or any animal, he suffered so much. He woke up slowly. Slowly, he walked away. No one said, "Where are you going?" What are you doing? He kept walking in the sun. There was a small village two to three kilometers away from here. There was a herd of birds. They are sad. It is painful, no matter how sick they are. They are crying: my parents, my brothers, and sisters. God, why did you give me such a life? What deeds have I done? I will tell you the story of those deeds tomorrow, not today. He was sitting there in the sand, and there was a well nearby where the villagers take water from. There was a big tree, and a saint came in the afternoon. The saint was sitting there. He was sitting there, and he was sitting there. He said, "Mahārāj, should I ask for some dry fruits?" Yes, tell me what you want. He said, "No, Mahārāj, what kind of karma do I have that I am suffering so much?" Is this a cure for my disease? He said, "Son, your disease is in your stomach." So, how do I cure it? It is like a child who is a gold digger. You eat that gold digger, so the root of this disease will come out of the stomach. So, Mahārāj, from where should I get a gold coin? He said, "Look, brother, either I ask someone, or Mahārāj will go." A sister came to fill the water. She saw, she brought water and said, "Brother, how are you sitting here?" From where have you come? The water is cold. She said, "Sister, my life is like this." I want to die. But a Mahārāj came and said, "The root of the disease is in the stomach." And I want a gold coin. I said, okay, I'll get it. She took it home in a basket full of it. She went and bought a small piece of gold coin from the shop. He started eating it anyway. What could he have done? He ate it like a goat. He drank water and left. She left. A gold coin costs 10. Julaab. If you eat this much, you will get so much Julaab that it will be closed for two to three hours. He had to go to the hospital all the time. He ate so much food. He started to vomit blood from his stomach. He said, "If someone told me that it was poison, I would have died soon." Why did he give me such a big thing? Blood from the stomach and the mother's blood. At this time, his sister came to get water at 4 o'clock. He washed her. He cleaned her. He bathed her. And she went home and made ghee and khichḍī for him to eat. Her stomach was at peace. On the second day, she felt that the blood that was coming on her skin stopped. Within four to five days, she was fine. No one came to take her. Now she thinks in her mind, "Now I will not go home." Such a family has a problem. Now I will go and become a sādhu. My gurujī gave me medicine for my life. Then I will just go to Gurujī's Pachino. He left. But neither any mantra nor any name. So Gurujī did not give any knowledge. He gave Sonāmuḳhī. So he says, "Okay, my mantra is Sonāmuḳhī. Whenever you see a mantra, Sonāmuḳhī, Sonāmuḳhī,... say it." Do you believe? And what name should I keep? Sonāmuḳhī Dās. What happened? Sonamukhi Das and mantra became Sonamukhi. Now it is going, going, going. Whatever comes to them, he gives them the same mantra, the same ashram. In a small village, there was a flood after ten to twenty days or after two to three months. It was a small village like Kailāsh or Jalund. There was a Dharamsara outside. Piyav Jaisi went there and sat there. There was a woman who was called Kumari, she used to dig up mud and sell it to make utensils. She saw a Mahārāj sitting at home and brought bread. She gave him the bread and asked him to sit down and eat. Mahārāj asked her to give him a blessing. Maharaj said, "I have two donkeys. I don't know where they went." Mahārāj says, "How many donkeys were there?" Two donkeys were there. How many donkeys were there in the house? There were only two donkeys in the house. So do one thing, you both eat one piece of Sonāmukhī. Eat one piece of Sonāmukhī, father. At least eat the donkey. She went home. Faith. Faith in her and faith in her sister. She went home and took Sonamukhī. And told her husband that she wanted to eat Sonāmukhī. Why? Did the donkey come? He said, "You fool." Will the donkey come to ask for money? I don't know that. Gurujī said, "That's it." Mahārāj has said that Mahārāj's speech is never incomplete. You will have to eat. I will not eat. You eat whatever is here. He should think in his mind, "I did not eat." And he should not stop eating. Bal-hat, strī-hat, rāj-hat, and yog-hat. Triya-hat also means "of a man." See, it is said that you should fast. But before that, you should fast as a wife. Both come together. So he said, "Okay, fine, don't worry about it. I will make a dish of bajrī and khāvar." And now he said, early in the morning, you have seen this, what do you call it, a big one. He made it strong, and in it, instead of fenugreek, he added a gold coin, and in the... Chutney also gold coin, and he made soup and rasam, in that also gold coin. Now he ate it strong, he ate it well, he ate it well,... he ate it well. It took half an hour for them to come inside the stomach of both of them. He says, "What happened?" He goes up to get water. He doesn't come back. She also goes. Now both of them came and went. It was 11 o'clock in the morning, then it was 12 o'clock. Now her husband got angry. You did it. You did it. You gave food to Sanamu. Now he comes with a stomach. He also comes with a stomach. Mahārāj, what have you done? Then her husband says, "Whatever has happened has happened." Let's go and plant some grass. We will go there and sit there. We will do whatever has to be done and will clean it tomorrow. There was a door in the barn. It was opened. Both of them are standing inside. Now, her daughter-in-law's blood has increased. Look, your father is standing. Why did you say that my father is not here? You don't say. What will the king call them? He will say, "You have to go. Go and make khichdi." So the reality was that the donkeys had gone to eat three to four days ago. They were in the house and the door was shut. That was it. If you see in Vāstu. But their faith and faith did not increase. The donkeys died inside. They were thirsty. Now he was happy. He gave them medicines. He told them to wait. They will wait. There was a small Thākur, he had two queens, one was Manītā and the other was Anmanītā. The poor girl did not see Anmanita and kept the baby-sitter as a caretaker. She made food for him, washed his clothes, and took care of him. Now, where did she go? She went to Anmanita and made some food for her. She said, "Mahārāṇī Sāheb, why are you so happy today?" I am very happy. I met a great Gurujī. For eight to ten days, I was looking for him. I couldn't find him. He brought me inside the house. He had brought me here looking for him. He said, "No, no. I don't believe this." Mahāraṇī Jī, so he said, "If Rājā Sāhib gives me respect, then I will say, 'Yes, your Gurujī Paṭṭa.'" There is no doubt in this. Bābajī will do it. She ran and went there. Bābajī, this is a very bad thing. Where did they bring him? He said, "Sonamukhī Dās." Give me one pāpa of Sonāmukhī, it will be done. She came and took it. She took it and made it into a bhangote. Mahāranī jī, there is a sin called Sona Mokhi, and if you drink this, Gurū jī will say that the Rājā will love you. I said that I will drink Sona Mokhi, and Raja will love me. I did not understand that. I do not know that. If you want to become a leader, then drink it. If you want to die, then drink poison. He drank it. Now, that poor Komal Sarirwadi never went out. Now, what is wrong with her? She got scared. She said, "Why are you beating me like this?" I am in pain. I have a pain in my stomach. So she took a paper and wrote to the king that this was her last moment. And I have one wish: in this last moment, look at your face. Please do so much. And even then, if you don't want to come, I am sending you all the keys along with this letter." At that time, Rājā Sāhab was sitting next to another person. A letter came to take Kumāran. Raja Sahab read it openly. She was looking at what was written. He said, "That poor girl is sick." She is saying that I should meet her. It is forbidden to go there. You can't go. That wretch said, "I can't even see her face." She threw the paper away. Raja said, "He said, 'You are such a wicked woman, you are such a demon, you have this kind of faith in you. Come on, I will not look at your face.'" He called her and took her to the other room, put the lock on the other room, and just kept giving her food from there. And he went to that queen, did the service, did the cleaning, did the clothes, and made her a believer. Now the princess said, "You have become a believer." And what he did was, he took Bābājī, who was sitting on the bed in the dharamśālā, and came to Rāj Bhavan. He gave a beautiful room in Raj Bhavan, kept two or three servants, eat, drink, have fun. See how his fate opened up. It has been two years; he has become a Rājguru. Nothing more, nothing less. One day at 5 in the evening, Mahāraṇījī and Mahārājā came. That Babaji, today is our last dhok, our last praṇām, please accept it. Sonamukhi Das says, "What mistake have I made? Have you removed me from here? Why is this happening?" No, no,... Gurudev, this is yours, this palace is yours, everything is yours. But it seems that tomorrow we will not be alive. Why? What happened? That another state has come to attack us. He sent a letter to us that tomorrow you should come with your army, or else we will take over your kingdom. Bless us that we will see you again in the next life. Sonamogidas said that it is good that the king has come. How many soldiers are there with him? He said that they have a lot of soldiers, 20,000. 20,000 are theirs, and how many do you have? He said, "Two and a half, three and a half. They will make chutney for us tomorrow, feed all of them, Sona Mukhi." Now, Rājā says, "If they eat Sona Mukhī, they will become even weaker." That Kumari says, "Raja Sahib, keep quiet, do not speak in front of Gurujī." You know, I will do all that work. Because he, meanwhile, ploughed the fields of Sona Mukhi. She went and brought the sacks full. And told the court to call all the soldiers here for lunch. They made the pakora and put it in the kadhi and said, "Today is the evening dinner with His Highness." All the soldiers came, the youth and all. They liked the pakora and the kadhi; they put it in the sabzi, and while eating, they also got the effect of the golden crown. Now, 500 have gone, they come back, and 800 have gone, they have not come, and 1,000 have gone, they have not come, and 1,500 have gone. They are running inside the field, coming and going, coming and going, at 12 o'clock in the night, all the poor soldiers. The commander of the army said to the commander, "Sir, what happened?" He said, "Look, they have so many armies." He said, "What happened?" You come and see. At night, the army is not far away. You keep watching. Thousands have come. 250,000 have gone. 2,000 have come. They have run. So, sir, what do you think about this? What are you thinking? I am only thinking that they are coming to see us. They have thousands, lakhs of people with them. How will they attack us tomorrow and kill us? Then what do you think? That, as soon as possible, before sunrise, make your Vita Gold, and let's go out. He left. The sun rose in the morning. He saw that there was no enemy. There were soldiers holding his stomach. But the king was saved. He saw Gurujī's power. That is why he said, "With faith and humility, what can be done? The Guru can undo the unhappiness." He can remove the unhappiness. Parabrahma is Gurudev. Satguru Devakī Dīp Nārāyaṇa Bhagavān Mādhava Kṛṣṇa Bhagavān. Om Śāntiḥ Śāntiḥ... Aryo.

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