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Family life: steps towards heaven

A spiritual discourse on family, tradition, and the sanctity of new life.

"From the day they think that a child will be born, for all these nine months we should stay at home. We should have a very peaceful atmosphere in the house and fresh, good food."

"Lucky are they, happy are they, blessed are they. If we can see five generations still alive, then it is said... they are all taking care that our parents are healthy."

The lecturer addresses the community, offering guidance on nurturing new life and upholding family traditions. He emphasizes the spiritual preparation for parenthood, the importance of a supportive and pure environment during pregnancy, and the profound joy that connects multiple generations. The talk expands to critique modern isolation and stresses communal happiness, concluding with a parable about true respect versus fear.

Filming location: Strilky, Czech Republic

This is the time when schools, colleges, and universities are beginning everywhere. But I think it is different here, or perhaps not. In India, they are not opening the schools for the children because of the content of the curriculum. And I don't know how it is here, but in India, the schools are not opening now because of corona. Yet, parents should teach them at home so that your children are constantly learning something. They are thinking about college, but sometimes yes and sometimes no. It is not only because of the students, but the teachers, their families, and their parents are also active in that way. So, everything is not very good. We can only pray, only pray, only pray. But learning is very important. That is called Vidyā. Vidyā is that knowledge that we are learning. And for that, there is Mother Saraswatī. That Saraswatī is the Goddess of Vidyā. From the beginning, whenever a child is born, how the mother and father handle the child is crucial. It is said that the language or the Vidyā, knowledge, is with the parents, and mostly the mother. It is said that the wife and husband, when they are getting a child, then they are more or less praying. Both couples should always stay at home. Of course, when someone has to go for duties of work, then you come home. One should not go outside and should not eat that kind of food which is in the restaurants. We know that restaurants are very clean, and what kind of food they are making, they are doing it cleanly. But still, there is an aura going from different people. Therefore, from the day they think that a child will be born, for all these nine months we should stay at home. We should have a very peaceful atmosphere in the house and fresh, good food. Don't eat old food. Also water—clean, good water. Water and milk, of course, you can have. And both husband and wife, according to their condition, their country, their tradition—if they believe in prayer, some religion, of course they should do prayer. But more spiritual. Every prayer is spiritual. We should not make duality. Otherwise, our prayers are not accepted by God by your making what we call duality. So, there we should have, according to our tradition, our spiritualities, our religions, our all traditions, that we should respect, and also we should give them this knowledge. You know that the father may still not know, and he cannot talk with the child, but the mother already knows, and she is speaking. She is touching everything. This is the mother's nature. And, of course, the father should also be very happy, very happy. They sit together, and they have a nice meal. And they are talking about how our child will be, what kind of dress we will get, and how happy it will be. Nowadays, people can see everything in their mother's stomach. But it is said that one should not check too much with the machines. But if the child is maybe only, they think like only one year, not yet—sorry—one month in the stomach, they sit and think, "Oh, that is a girl, and this is a boy," or this. That's not good. You should tell the doctor. Of course, doctors are checking everything: health, how healthy it is. But you should say, "Please, don't tell us if it's a girl or a boy." Maybe someone was expecting a girl, and you have three boys already. The fifth one may also be a boy. Then maybe the father or mother says, "Why don't we have a girl?" Or when you have a girl, the father may be happy, and the mother says, "No, I want to have my son. I don't want the girls." So there is individual thinking and collective thinking. Mostly they said, "It doesn't matter if it's a girl or a boy, we need only a helpful, very healthy child, and it takes birth comfortably." That's why there are two, either girls or boys. Also, parents, they should prepare their house, clean nicely, maybe add some color, everything very nice. A nice cradle. This is how we are preparing parents, like a bird. Both male and female, the birds, they are making the nest, a beautiful nest. And I think maybe in some, and maybe not, even the birds, they don't utilize a second, what we call that, their nest. Někteří ty ptáce dokonce mají jenom jedno hnízdo, kam se vracejí, nestaví další. So we see that the birds, the animals, they do not again use the same nest. And they want to make it nice and clean, and so on. So for nine months, humans are thinking their child will be healthy and happy for us. And we make a very nice place and nice cradles, etc., etc. And in our traditions, in our culture, who is very happy? Grandparents. Yes. So, grandfather and grandmother, they are very happy. And they said, "When my children get a child, then parents say, 'Now I have my second step.'" And as long as I did not get my children, my parents, we think we will not have one step further. So, the duty of the grandparents is to get children, and our tradition is to double the family, to family in the same tradition. So the grandparents, they are so happy. And when they give the child, then of course a few hours or even two days, otherwise, the great-grandmother, children, parents, they have to get the child in their hands. And the great-great-grandparents have tears in their eyes. So happiness, the tears of happiness. And it is said: Lucky are they, happy are they, blessed are they. If we can see five generations still alive, then it is said, the grandfather that was last, first, that was, we have now fifth now, that has gone to the Brahmalokas. So they are all taking care that our parents are healthy. Now, this is not only tradition. It is written in the books, in the Vedas, etc. So, for example, I am happy because I have my five children, generation, and many. How? My disciples, and some are in Slovakia, some in Czechoslovakia, Czech, in Hungary, and India, of course. So, when I came to Czechoslovakia, let's say, there was an elderly couple, and they saw me, and they understood me, and they got a mantra from me. And they met with me, and they started to come to me, and they got the mantra from me. And it was an old couple. They came with sticks, slowly, slowly, sitting on the chairs, and they had tears in their eyes. That my God has come, my Gurudev. And his parents, they are also still old. And he brought them, our elderly parents. And the second, two. And they had children, little children, they also became mantra. Now that one is grounded, they are educated, so this is the fourth. And they study in university and so on, and they got the children, the fifth generation. So when it is said, when you have five generations in front of you, you see, you have five steps to the cosmic life. And if you can have seven, two more, then, like, you are going like the... Went to the up, this is therefore you shall take care of your grandchildren, and they all love them. We all love them, and this is your generation. This is your happiness, etc. And we don't want that this will die. We don't want to throw it into the bathroom, meaning into the hospital. In the hospital, they will give some tablets just to lie down and sleep. I'm sorry to say, but I will not tell this country. And some couples, they have their grandmother. And they have their children, and then children. So they are three generations. So grandmother is not so old. But one day, the doctor came home. And she said she is very old and she is not capable. And we have these injections, and we can give the injection, and she will die soon. Really? And we said to the doctor, "What?" Your grandmother is very tired and very ill, and will be suffering, and therefore in the hospital. We have one room, and there we will see, or we brought it home. They are my disciples, and grandmother's daughter was so sad and told the doctor, "Please get out of my house." They were from a country, Croatia, and in Croatia, people love their grandparents very, very much, and they were living in another country. So I heard this, and not only heard, I was sitting with them. I was at lunch with them, and they told me. And these Croatian people are very, very humble, very nice. They are good with their eating, making nice things. Every country is. But this is what I am telling you: it should not be. And then they are sitting; there is a locked room, they can't get out. Giving some water or something, they sleep again. That is the sin that we should not do. So, the generation for children, when we get and we know that we will be pregnant, husband and wife, and then after a while they will tell their grandparents, not the parents first, the second parents. Because the happiest one is the oldest person, and then their young couples. And their second son is coming, so three generations now already, and in the fourth generation, then we are happy because the fifth generation is coming out of the stomach. Like this, we are human, and even our neighbors, we have children, we are happy. Like this little village here, Střílky, and when someone is married or gets a child, all neighbors, they know, and they are happy with this. Now, big, big cities, nobody knows. And building, building, building. And now, even only one or two floors, they don't talk to each other, the neighbors. Case of case we meet on the staircase, they say, "Hello, good morning, how are you?" That's all. Say, "Yes, thank you. That's all." Or they open the door and you are coming from the other side. Oh, good morning. Bye. How are the humans? Humans begin to separate. Then, from this, how do we come? And we should be happy when your children are married first, then prayers, and then you get children. And now these children, which you are married, and this you should not throw them out. And why is one not happy, or why is one otherwise happy, or what? It is said that when you get pregnant, families and people are happy a child is coming. When they are married, they are happy, they enjoy, then they become pregnant, then that joy is different. And after that, you give the children eating, not first you. So, like, slowly, slowly, we are sidewards. So we should see that our children, we have that. Now we did it, finished. What? So these are many, many things in this way. So your country, your village, your neighbor, your tradition—all we should keep. And the guest, we call the guest, is God. Guest is God. But if it is the first time, then the guest. Second is a good one. And third, they are asking, "Do you want to eat?" First, we are offering and saying, "Please eat," and so on. But on the third time, they said, "Do you want to eat something?" Then they know that now I have to go. And Kṛṣṇānanda was telling once about a Hungarian: when the fourth guest is in the house... They will say, "Are you stupid here?" Yes, it's time to go, and they are going outside. Sometimes it's like this, but that was the time of the wedding time. I think that in these Western countries also, when there was a wedding, it was how many days? Like, the time also, like sometimes the king, for example, they are preparing how many days and how many guests and everything, yeah? Just for this one girl and boy? No, because we are all happy for that. So late, where the guest is the king, and that's okay. Because if you don't come and give respect or something, then the king will not be good to you, so we all have to go, all have to work, etc., etc. So, there was a king, and he was very strict, and you have to do whatever. And always they said, "Yes, sir." Yes, sir. Everything. Do all that I said. And all love, everybody is mine who is there. So he had one dog, and the king was very strict with people. Even he put him in jail for five days. A king is a king. You know what was it here? Yes. You know that? You never heard about it a hundred years before? Two hundred years, yes? You cannot, your mouth is closed, of the king. So, that king had a very nice dog. And when the dog was there, everybody stood up and said, "Nice." One day, it was old, and the dog died, so the king made a funeral. And in the whole kingdom, everyone from every house had to come. And so many went for one dog's funeral. For whom? The dog. Why? Because of the king. After a few years, the king died, and no one went to the funeral. Yes? So it's like that. So there are such people like this, and such people like others. So in your village, in your country, in your street with your neighbors, we should have nice happiness and friends, and be nice to the next village and others also. And then, what we say from country to country, that is it's called the best of the best. Traditions which have the happiness. There is the dancing, everything. So at that time, the child is born, and we are all taking care. And you know everything, so that is very important for the parents. Pāṇḍu, the last in Himalaya, Yudhiṣṭhira, all died, and there was a... And it is said, now you have to come through seven steps. And glaciers, snow, slippery, and one step is not like this. The one step is like this, straight like that, and this still we can see that from Alakpurījī's cave. Who was there? Hand up, please. You say, "Very good." Did you step one? One step? Did you climb? Even we were asking, "Please, have you some horse?" That's it. So, who are they? How was it? That is, but we humans, we should respect and love other creatures. Now is coming Kali Yuga, and in this Kali Yuga, everything is this. It's making the war. Even the neighbors to a neighbor's house can be like a very enemy. So that is the time, and the time is for us, and we shall be happy. Don't be angry, don't be jealous. Don't be cruel, etc. So it was a generation, that time, what I said. So you gave the child to the mother or wife. And now you have to take respect. Help, and then take care of the love of the child, and then further, this is the fourth generation, and this fourth generation is that's it. All steps, how many steps? That's it. So we achieved our steps. That's good, thank you. Nine o'clock. Very good, nine steps. After nine, there's nothing against. It's coming then, eleventh. Zero is zero. So we don't want to be in the zero. All the best, my dear. If days were very happy, joy, very nice, and if I was a little bit strict, or ten days, ten minutes late, or a little bit angry, that please before always. It sheltered them. Moon, block your mouth. But now, automatically, not only one, the whole world—how much they got money? People, whatever they had, old cloth and all, from jeans, everything, doesn't matter from men or the women, they all took. It is made very nice, and now everybody has many, many nice things, and now someone has joy. Someone has something here, and something is written this time, this time. So it was very nice tomorrow. If you want to go, at least have breakfast, then go. If you have a long time, then you can have lunch. If you are only a few kilometers away, then enjoy the dinner. If you can't go because it's too heavy, then stay and have the satsaṅg. Thank you. See you, see you, my dear, and we know when and what happens. There are many people who are good, many people are negative, many people always see the negatives only. So there are people like that, but those are they who only purify even the negative. Thank you. Dīpa Nāmā Bhagavān.

This text is transcribed and grammar corrected by AI. If in doubt what was actually said in the recording, use the transcript to double click the desired cue. This will position the recording in most cases just before the sentence is uttered.

The text contains hyperlinks in bold to three authoritative books on yoga, written by humans, to clarify the context of the lecture:

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