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Swāmījī, how do we not feel anger, how do we not become angry, and how do we avoid showing anger to others? Fall into a cold swimming pool. Your anger will be cooled down in the swimming pool. Swim more and more quickly, and you will finally become calm. Anger is a great devil in our body. The real devil drinks the blood of others only. But the devil of anger drinks the blood from others and from oneself. Anger is a great thief that will take away everything, all valuable things you possess. It is that kind of thief that comes to your door and steals everything from you. You collect some good thing somewhere, you carry it home, and this thief will come to your doorstep and take everything away. You will enter your house again as poor as you were, all because of anger. Let's say someone made a mistake. A beautiful, expensive glass pot or flower vase fell from someone's hand and broke, and you became very angry. In such a moment, think: it could have been you who let the pot fall. And if the other person then became angry at you, how would you feel? Always put yourself in that position. If you shout at your wife, then put yourself in the position of your wife. How will you feel when she shouts at you? So, use your wisdom. You are very wise, very, very wise; you know so many things. The problem is that you do not utilize your own knowledge for your own sake. You are a good advisor. If someone has problems and comes to you or telephones you, you are so good, so wise. You help, saying, "Don't worry, it will be okay," and so on. You have many, many good things; you possess so much wisdom. But when something happens to you, all that is blocked out. So, use your wisdom. You know very, very much; you have a lot of wisdom and so many beautiful things in your life and within you. You have such nice qualities, and this little anger destroys everything. So, do not be angry. And if you still are, then jump into cold water; that will calm and cool you down. Drink a glass of cold water. It really helps. When you are very angry, drink cold water. Immediately, something will become calm. Then sit down wherever you are, close your eyes, and see your own anger. You will be ashamed of yourself, wondering from where these Rākṣasas came into you. And sometimes, a little anger is healthy. You should know where you should utilize anger. That is not anger; that is strictness; that is teaching. You are strict with your children; you say no and so on. You may even shout at them, but you have great love in your heart. You are saying this to them because you love them. You do not want to spoil their life, so you care about them. Therefore, when you care about someone and are strict in an angry way, that anger is healthy. That is educational anger. So, if you are angry with your husband, it is very healthy. You know, to Mr. General Director. It keeps his level of ego at a certain height. Or with your wife, if she is angry—but you are not angry from the heart towards your husband or your wife. Sometimes he or she is a very big director of some large company, or you are a minister or something, and you come home still thinking you are the minister of everybody. They will say, "No, you are at home." I do not want my husband, dear husband, to play minister with us now, so we should know where and what to do. That is it. You love them, you know; you are not angry at them; you love them. That kind of anger, that strictness, is healthy. But the other person should also be able to understand this.