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People often make a mistake when they read that a yogī goes to the forest, meditates, and doesn’t need anything. I agree, a yogī goes to the forest and meditates, and he doesn’t need anything—but only for six hours. After six hours, you are searching: where is the water, where is the food, and where is the next transportation bus to the village. Therefore, that was a different time. Now, whatever we would like to achieve, we should achieve where we are. Or you have your house somewhere, a small house and garden, and you grow your food. You collect your rainwater, and that’s it. There was a ṛṣi who had a small hut in the forest. In front of his hut, a creek was flowing. One day, around eleven o’clock, he was sitting outside his hut. A hunter was running behind a deer to kill it. The deer was a pregnant female. The hunter was running behind her, and she wanted to cross the little creek. She made a long jump and managed to jump over, but after a few meters, she lost the embryo. She ran away. That ṛṣi took care of that embryo. He was looking after this small baby, and thanks to God, slowly that baby survived, became strong, and began to grow. He became so attached to this deer, very much attached. For him, this deer was everything because he was completely lonely, and now suddenly he had someone. He took care of the deer, giving it food and water and a good shelter, like you do for your dogs and cats. The ṛṣi became old, and one day he died. As he was dying, he was sad that he had to separate from his deer, and he worried about who would take care of it. His soul left the body. He had been thinking so much of the deer during the day, not about God or something else, but about his deer. The result was that the soul of that yogī came into the embryo of that very deer. The deer became pregnant, and we see the soul came to the deer and was born as a deer. The mother deer loved this little fawn very much. One day, the baby deer was sitting in the sun, and suddenly he realized that he had been a ṛṣi. How was it possible that he was born as an animal again? He realized it was due to his attachment. So he prayed to God to free him from this life and to grant him a next human birth. Attachment, which can create many, many physical and mental disturbances, is different from love. As long as you are not above this worldly attachment—which also means family attachment—you are bound. Family attachment is of two kinds. One is healthy attachment: a healthy attachment with love, fulfilling your duty. The other attachment is a very unnatural attachment, and that will make you unhappy. You should learn from the animals. The human has to learn again from the animals. A bird has attachment. She begins to make a nest, lays the eggs in it, and it is her duty. She sits on the eggs for one or two weeks, and then the bird will take distance. So it is also in animals. Animals have a certain period for that kind of attachment, then they give their young freedom to grow. Of course, this new bird which is flying sometimes cannot fly, sometimes falls down, sometimes falls into a thorny bush, but they manage to come out. Where there is attachment, there is unhappiness. And where there is love, there is happiness. Where there is love, there is freedom. And where there is attachment, there is no freedom. It is very important that we create healthy love and healthy attachment. Otherwise, you can do whatever you want, but you cannot proceed further. It is like a horse would like to run, but you have the rope of the horse in your hands. There is one very nice example. There is one cow, and this cow is tied in the cow stall or the cow’s stable with a strong rope or a chain. It means she cannot free herself. Now, her place, where she is, her stall, is on fire and burning. The cow is inside, and she is burning. She would like to be free, but she cannot because she is tied to that hook with the chain, and she cannot break it. Similarly, we have some hooks in our life. We are tied to this hook, we are suffering, and we are burning inside, burning in the fire of life. It is not easy; it is painful. You would like to be free, but you cannot because that hook is too strong. This is your blind attachment. You think it is your responsibility. It is not your responsibility. You have done everything you could. Now, let the bird fly free. It doesn’t matter which direction. You can give only birth, not destiny. As friends, we can give only support, but not destiny. This is not only towards our family members or our friends but also towards other creatures. Therefore, you should know what you have done and to what extent is your responsibility. So, also your children: you give them education. After a certain number of years, after 25 years, give them complete freedom. They will learn. But it is your attachment again; it is your ignorance. This ignorance and this attachment are the biggest barriers, so you cannot proceed. That rock in front of your cave, you cannot get out. That is the chain which is hooked. That cow cannot get out of its place. For human intellect and human feelings, sometimes it is very hard. But either this or that, you should love them, you should give them education, support, and everything. But until a certain time, if they need your advice, they can come to you, that’s all. That is why mostly parents are suffering. Anyhow, children will not follow you now. Children do what they like to do. Those who are sitting here as parents, whose children are already grown, about 20, 30, or 40 years, is there someone whose child 100% follows you? Is there any happy parent who is sitting here? That’s it. And are there any happy parents who are sitting here with children who are 12, 13 years, 15 years, and they are following you? That you tell, "Don’t watch the television," and they watch the television? Huh? Parents tell, "Turn off the television," and they say, "No, I want to watch this." Is there any happy parent whose child turns off the television when told? So you see, what a Kali Yuga. That’s it. Is there any happy master whose disciples follow him? Yes, I can say, yes, I am the happy master. You see, it is better to be a master than a parent. I can tell you, your disciples will take care of you more than your own children. Therefore, you should develop so far and have good disciples. Yes, nowadays, your friends will take more care of you than your children because modern education is like that. So try to be active to gain good friends, good disciples. I am not against children. I love children very much, and I wish that our children are well educated. But the problem is the outside, outdoor culture is very different nowadays, and outdoor culture is commercialized. People who have money get all kinds of license. In Kali Yuga, money is God. That’s it. That’s Kali Yuga. So, of course, the outdoor culture is not good for humans now. But good children, spiritual children, are they who follow the parents, who follow the ethical principles. Children are not allowed to watch television till 25 years of age. You can watch children’s programs. You can watch something about nature and animals, you can watch programs for children, programs about nature, about animals, or you can watch the news, that’s all. If you want to watch more, then watch yoga videos. These are the spiritual examples, children. But as I said, none of your children follow you. So, what do you expect from these children? When you will need them, they will not be there. You do not know where the child will go and marry. You are in Europe, and the child will be in Japan. Twice they will phone you or write you: on your birthday, and maybe on Christmas. That’s all. But if you have good friends and good disciples, they will take care of you. You see, what I am telling, there is reality in it. Then why are you only attached to your children? That’s it. Become neutral. Love all. Love all and gain good friends, and get a good friend. It is a bitter truth. So moha, attachment, is ignorance. What you think is yours is not yours. And what you think is not yours, it is yours. That’s it. You think good things are yours; they are not yours. But the trouble you think is not yours, but it is yours because they are lying in your destiny. So think and work on this way. Free yourself from this prison because you know that you are not able to do what you want to do. You are only present and suffering. Now, the decision is on you. So just think logically. For example, you are so much attached and suffering for your husband, and your husband does not love you at all. But still, you take care of him very much. You do not even go shopping peacefully because you want to run back and come home to see how he is. I knew one very nice lady; she was 78, and her husband was 81. She was going shopping, and sometimes we were talking, and she said, "I must go quickly home because my husband is alone at home." I said, "Yes, but why not a little bit?" "Yeah, because when I go shopping, then he telephones some other one. He telephones some other ladies." So, jealousy. She is 78, and he is 81. So I told her, "What do you think? Let’s say you die. What will happen then?" Then she said, "Then I will come as a ghost and disturb the telephone." So, suppose you will die. What will happen to it? Nothing will go with you. Nothing. Not even this body. So free yourself from that attachment. Use your wisdom. Use your knowledge, or suffer further. Yes. So you know, we say a mother has to separate twice. First, when a child is born, they cut the navel. That’s the first separation. And second, when they are married. That’s it.