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Marriage is not the worst thing; it is the best. Otherwise, we would not be here. Do not think marriage is bad. However, marriage should take place with very clear thinking. Its purpose is to create a happy joint family, and one should wait for a good constellation. You must compare horoscopes; that is the Vedic marriage. In the West, this knowledge has been lost. You should know the exact time and hour of your birth. From this, a constellation emerges, and within it appear a few letters. Your name should be chosen according to these letters. For example, if the letter is 'M', your name should begin with it, like Maria, Magdalena, or Martin. When you wish to marry, you should also ask about your partner's name—whether it was given according to the astrological horoscope or arbitrarily by parents. All problems begin when you lose the roots of your birth. By knowing your partner's name, you understand their horoscope. Astrologically, you must then compare. It is written whether you will be happy together, quarrel, have a short marriage, have no children, become unhappy after marriage, divorce, or find great happiness. It can indicate a faithful partner, beautiful and obedient children, harmony within the family and with parents, and a good atmosphere in the home. A marriage based on physical, sexual desire is an unhappy marriage; it will break, and the person will not be happy. Therefore, you must have this astrological knowledge, which is not very difficult. If you want to secure your children's future, give them a name according to their birth hour. Then the whole generation can become happy again. You can begin with this project. Marriage is never bad; it is very good. But whether you can maintain it is not entirely in your hands—it is in the hands of destiny. In your destiny, there is already one wife waiting for you, but you may not have noticed her. You may have fallen in love with the worst person instead because your decision was based on emotion. Emotion is like waves, sometimes very high and sometimes flat. There may be a beautiful and happy husband waiting for you, but you did not notice or take care of him. In ancient culture, in Hinduism, there are very clear guidelines for marriage. Even an atheist in India who does not believe in God or religion will consult an astrologer before marrying their daughter or son. The Hindu family is based on protecting their children's future. Therefore, children sometimes must wait until they find the right partner. Now the modern system has begun; the European system came to India as well. We call the European way "love marriage," and the other is "karmic marriage." Love marriage has no roots or basics; it is just a cloud that came from somewhere. But in a karmic marriage, you should know the family's background, health conditions, and many other things. Marrying your children is one of the highest points of your life, not just theirs. They will be happy—not 100%, but 98% are. The remaining 2% can be crazy. According to the Western system now, 98% are unhappy and only 2% are happy, which can also be accidental. It is said that even the blind hand finds the kernel. If you are happily married, I congratulate you. You will see that mostly older couples are happily married because they were very clear about what they wanted and thought about how to create a lifelong union. But now, young people have no patience to wait. The biggest problem is modern education, videos, magazines, and films, which have destroyed and are destroying human ethics and moral values. Humans are not born for these things. Humans are born to have a happy family and happy children, for spiritual development, and for God and religion. It is nature. The nature of your body and the nature of a tree are not different. Trees are affected by weather and changes of the season, and you are affected exactly the same way. You are a movable, mobile tree. But do not think you are better than a tree. Compared with nature, you are exactly like this flower. Therefore, in nature, there is a tendency of desires: the desire to drink, to eat, to sleep, to create something. Finally, every plant will get blossoms, fruits, and seeds, and these seeds will again go to the plant. It is nature. But the tree does not have the intellect which you have. So you should think normally. Do not be the slave of your senses; otherwise, you are lost. Those who are slaves to the senses will never be successful, and those who are not faithful to Gurudev will never achieve anything. There is a story of two brothers. One brother went for higher education, and the other became a sādhu and did not go to school—he could not even write a signature. The educated brother had a high position but one sorrow: he was sorry that his brother remained foolish, thinking that if he had studied, he would have become a proper human. This is how people think, calling themselves highly educated. One day, the elder brother decided to visit his younger brother, the sādhu, who was living near the bank of a river in Puṣṭha. The elder brother took a boat across the river. The younger brother had a small, beautiful Śiva temple and was making prayers, but he could not chant Sanskrit mantras properly. The elder brother was angry and sorry inside. Finally, he told his younger brother, "If you had studied, you would have become a great person and achieved something in life." The younger brother replied, "Yes, brother, what can I do? But I don’t think I want to achieve something. I am happy with my Lord Śiva. I have my vegetables growing here, my cows for milk. Morning and evening, I have my prayers." The elder brother said, "Yes, but you don’t even know how to sing the prayer properly." The younger one said, "Then please teach me." So the elder brother taught him how to pronounce correctly. The elder brother then wanted to return home to the city and took the ferry. Sitting on the deck and looking back at his brother, he felt sorry, thinking, "My God, he’s lost in the forest like a deer." The younger brother was sitting on the riverbank, watching the ferry cross. He tried to repeat the mantra but forgot two lines. He ran to ask his brother again. The elder brother, sitting on the ferry, saw his younger brother walking on the water toward him. The younger brother said, "Dear brother, I’m sorry I forgot the mantra. Can you teach me again for my high achievement?" The academically educated brother said, "My brother, you don’t need any higher education. Tell me, how did you learn to walk on the water? For thirty-eight years I have studied and worked as a scientist. I can’t walk even on my bath cup." The youngest brother said, "My dear brother, it’s only the blessing of my Gurudevam. My Guru gave me the blessing, and that’s all. I trust that all my higher education and all my siddhis and mokṣa are only his blessing." So do not run here and there. You think you will get mokṣa and something? Just be there, where you are. Therefore, marry with the heart, not with stupid thinking. And when you want to marry, you should know one thing: do you know what marriage means? In English, at least, I know it merges two into oneness. Then there is no separation, no divorce. You have to merge into oneness, not through emotional, physical love. The Catholic Church is also very strict; they advise only one marriage. The second time you marry, they do not make a prayer for you in the church because there is no concept of divorce in Christianity. If you believe in Christianity and think you are a Christian yet you divorce, then you are not a Christian. You are neither Christian nor Hindu, but a lost, confused, frustrated, crazy human. Then this question arises: why should we not have desires? What to do with my feelings and desires? Jump in cold water. So, marriage is a good thing. It is never a worse thing. But the worst thing is thinking about divorce after marriage. Karmically, you will suffer for many, many lives. Perhaps in the next life, you will be that monkey closed in a cage, having desires but no partner. You will be that bird imprisoned in a small cage, with a desire for a partner but unable to have one. This is a karmic prison because in this life, you broke the karmic rules. The monkey is one of the creatures with a very strong sexual desire, but closed in a cage. Therefore, think it over. Either do not marry, or if you marry, let it be forever—except if your partner dies. When your partner dies, your sexual desire should die with your partner. You should not seek a second partner. You should be faithful, loyal, and surrender and dedicate your feelings to your partner—only for him or for her. Then comes a happy family life and a happy human. But people do not know this. Now, you never wait even half a day. If your parents tell you, "Please study first," you say, "What do you know?" Think: ten-year-old kids want to go to clubs and friends, and you know what they are doing there? Then you think that in India they marry young children. The system here is worse than that one. I am sorry to talk so long, but I think this is a very important part. Though I told you yesterday I would not answer questions about husband and wife, you caught me again. I wish you a very happy marriage. And do not fall into some crazy person’s hands. It is your responsibility to protect yourself. Everyone can be crazy, but that does not mean you are also crazy. So, only one thing remains: protect thyself. Therefore, in yoga, it is said there are four things to follow: āhāra, vihāra, ācāra, and vicāra. Āhāra is diet. Vihāra is where to go and where not to go. Ācāra is behavior. Vicāra is thinking. If these are positive, then you are happy. Therefore, marriage is not the worst. If you want to marry, then do it. But be sure this person will not leave you midway. An astrologer will ask, "Did you ever have another girlfriend or boyfriend?" If you say, "Yes," he will say, "What? Do you want to marry now?" To marry means the first night together. That is marriage. But if you live together for five years and then say, "Should we marry?" what do you want to marry now? There is nothing left; the meaning is gone. There is a system called the honeymoon. First, you have wedding ceremonies with all rituals. In the ceremonies, there are different mantras and prayers to different deities. There is only one God, but that God has many workers. Without them, God is lost. You have only one president in Hungary, but what your lower-level worker or officer can do, your president cannot. A signature is needed from a revenue officer at a lower level. Without this signature, even your president can do nothing. If a signature is required from lawyers, who are lower than the president, then the president cannot work without it. The president has all rights, but he should not disregard any law. Therefore, all officers and all people are his best helpers. When you marry, first you must have a pūjā for the nine planets, the grahas. There are mantras for each planet, so that it may remain always in the best constellation for your marriage. Then you honor the goddess, the power which is the protector of your property and house. Then the Kuladeva, the personal patron or god of your family dynasty. And also the Devī, for there are not only male gods but female gods too. There are many, many things, and this is not a joke. It has power and meaning. If something has happened, is it too late? We have to correct for the future. If you have one flat tire on your car, it does not mean you will drive in Budapest with it. You can stop and change the tire. So we can stop something, meditate, receive Guru Kṛpā, and bring our life back in order. Otherwise, running here and there will give you nothing. Again, you will come as confused as you are. That is how I made most of it.