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Marriage is not the worst thing. Marriage is the best thing. Otherwise, we would not be here, so do not think that marriage is the worst. But marriage should take place with very clear thinking. Marriage exists to create a happy joint family, and you should wait for a good constellation; you must compare your horoscopes—that is called Vedic marriage. Now, in the West, you have lost this. You should know exactly the time and hour of your birth. Then comes a constellation, and in this constellation, a few alphabets, a few letters, appear. Your name should be according to this letter. Let us say you have the alphabet 'M'. Then your name should begin like Maria, Magdalena, or Martin. So the name should begin with 'M'. When you want to marry, you should also ask your partner which name they have—if the name is according to the astrological horoscope or just a name given by parents. All problems begin when you lose the roots of your birth. So when you ask the name of your partner, you know very clearly which horoscope this person has. Then, astrologically, you have to compare if you will be happy together, or you will be quarreling, or the marriage will be short, or you will have no children—everything is written there—or after marriage, you will be very unhappy, you will get divorced, or you will be very happy. Your partner will be very faithful; you will have very beautiful, obedient children. There will be harmony in the family, harmony with the parents, a good atmosphere in the house. Your marriage will not be based on physical sexual desire; all marriages which take place based on sexual desires are unhappy marriages, and that marriage will break, and the person will not be happy. Therefore, you have to have this astrological knowledge. It is not very difficult. If you want to save your children for the future, then give their name according to their birth hour. Then the whole generation will again become happy. You can begin with this project. So marriage is never bad. Marriage is very good, but if you can keep it, it is not in your hands. It is in the hands of destiny. In your destiny, there is already one wife waiting for you, but you did not notice that. You married, you fell in love with the worst person. That is it, because your marriage was based on an emotional decision. Emotion is like waves—sometimes very high and sometimes flat. There is a very beautiful and happy husband who is waiting for you, but you did not notice him, you did not take care of him. Lehet, hogy egy nagyon szép és jó férj vár rád, de nem vetted észre, nem figyeltél rá. In ancient culture, there was and there is, or in Hinduism, we have very clear lines for marriage. A Hindu ősi kultúrában nagyon tiszta jelei vannak a házasságnak. Even an atheist who does not believe in God and religion in India, he and his wife, they will consult an astrologer before marrying their daughter or their son. The Hindu family is based on the protection of their children's future. Therefore, sometimes children have to wait till they get the right partner. Now the modern system began; the European system came to India also. We call the Indian way of European marriage "love marriage." So one is love marriage, and one is karmic marriage. Love marriage has no roots. Love marriage has no basics; love marriage is just a cloud that came from somewhere. But in karmic marriage, you should know the background of the family, the health condition of the family, and many things. To marry your children is one of the highest points of your life, even, not only their life. And they are happy. Of course, not 100%, but 98% are. These 2% can be crazy. But according to the Western system now, 98% are unhappy. And 2% are happy; that can also be accidental—it is said that even the blind hand finds the carnal. Therefore, if you are happily married, I congratulate you. You will see that mostly the older couples who are sitting are happily married, because they were very clear about what they wanted. They were waiting and thinking over creating a lifelong partnership. But now young people have no nerves to wait. The biggest problem is modern education, modern videos, magazines, and films, which have destroyed and are destroying human ethics and moral values. Humans are not born for these things, but humans are born to have a happy family and happy children, spiritual development, and God-religion. It is nature. Your body, the nature of your body, and the nature of the tree are not different. The trees are also affected by weather and changes of the season. You are also affected exactly like that by the weather and changes of the seasons. You are a movable, a mobile tree. But do not think that you are better than the tree. Compared with nature, you are exactly like even this flower. Therefore, in nature, there is a tendency of desires. Desire to drink, desire to eat, desire to sleep, desire to create something. The desire for eating, the desire for drinking, the desire for creating offspring, the desire for sleep. Finally, every plant will get blossoms, fruits, and seeds, and these seeds will again go to the plant. Finally, every plant will have its flowers and will bear fruit, and these seeds will then multiply in the earth. Therefore, it is nature, but the tree does not have that intellect which you have. So you should think normally. Do not be the slave of your senses. Otherwise, you are lost. Those who are the slave of the senses will never be successful. And those who are not faithful to Gurudev will never achieve anything. There were two brothers. One brother went for higher education. One brother became a sādhu and did not go to school. He could not even write a signature. The brother who had a high education had a high position. But he had only one sorrow. He was very sorry that his brother did not study, that this brother remained foolish. If he would have gone to school, college, and university, he would have become a human. This is how people are thinking. They call themselves higher educated. One day the elderly brother decided to go to see his younger brother who became a sādhu and was living somewhere in the forest, near the bank of the river. The elder brother took the boat across the river to come to his younger brother. The younger brother had a small, beautiful, nice Śiva temple and was making prayer. But he could not chant Sanskrit mantras properly. The elder brother was inside angry and sorry. Finally, he could not keep himself back, and he told his younger brother, "If you would have studied, you would have become some great person and would have achieved something in life." He said, "Yes, brother, what can I do? But I do not think I want to achieve something. I am happy with my Lord Śiva. I have my vegetables here, growing. I have my cows, milk. Morning, evening, I have my prayers." My elder brother said, "Yes, but you do not even know how to sing the prayer." He said, "Then please teach me." So the elderly brother taught his younger brother how to pronounce the name of the city. The younger one said, "Thank you very much." Now the elderly brother wanted to go back home, to the city, and he took the ferry. Sitting on the deck of the ferry and looking back to his younger brother, he was so sorry, "My God, he is lost in the forest like a deer." "Oh my God, I feel so sorry, he is like a deer wandering in the forest." The youngest brother was sitting on the bank of the river and looking at the ferry which was crossing the river. He tried to repeat the mantra that his brother taught him. He forgot two lines. So he ran to get his brother and asked, and the other brother was sitting on the ferry. When he saw his brother, he thought, "Is this my brother?" He is walking on the water, and the brother came to him and said, "Dear brother, I am sorry, I forgot the mantra. Can you teach me again for my higher achievement?" The academic, educated brother said, "My brother, you do not need any higher education. Tell me, how did you learn to walk on the water? Thirty-eight years I have studied and worked as a scientist. I cannot walk even on my bathtub." The youngest brother said, "My dear brother, it is only the blessing of my Gurū Devam. My Gurū gave me the blessing that it will be, and that is all. I trust that all my higher education and all my siddhis and mokṣas are only his blessing. That is it. So do not run here and there. You think you will get mokṣa and something? Just be there where you are." Therefore, marry with the heart, not with stupid thinking. When you want to marry, then you should know one thing. Do you know what 'marry' means? In English, at least I know, it merges two, merges into oneness; then there is no separation, there is no divorce. So you have to merge into oneness, not emotional, physical love, you know? The Catholic Church is also very strict. You know, they advise you only one marriage. Now, the second time when you marry, they do not make a prayer for you in the church, because there is no concept of divorce in Christianity. If you believe in Christianity and if you think you are a Christian and you are divorcing, then you are not a Christian. Neither Christian, nor Hindu, nor something different. You are a lost, confused, frustrated, crazy human. Then this question rises: why should we not have desires? What to do with my feelings and desires? Jump in cold water. So, marriage is a good thing. Marriage is never a worse thing. But the worst thing is then, after marriage, you are thinking to get divorced. Then karmically you will suffer in many, many lives. Perhaps you will be in the next life. Should I tell you? You will be that monkey, closed in one case, having desires but having no partner. You will be that bird which is imprisoned in a small case, having a desire to have a partner but you cannot. This is a karmic prison, because in this life you broke the karmic rules. The monkey is one of the creatures which has very strong sexual desire, but closed in the case. Therefore, think it over. Either do not marry, and if you marry, then it is forever. Except if your partner dies. It means when your partner dies, your sexual desire died with your partner. You are not going to have a second partner. You should be faithful, and you should be loyal to surrender and dedicate your feelings to your partner. It is only for him or for her, no more anything. Then there is happy family life, happy human, but people do not know this now. You never wait even for half a day. If your parents tell you, "Please study first," you say, "What do you think?" Ten-year-old kids, they want to go to the club. They want to go to some friends. And you know what they are doing there? Then you are thinking that in India they are marrying young children. The system which is here is more worse than that one. I am sorry to talk so long, but I think this is a very important part. And though I told you yesterday I will not answer this question, do not ask me problems over husband and wife, but you caught me again. I wish you a very happy marriage. And do not fall into some crazy person's hands. It is your responsibility to protect yourself. All can be crazy. It means not that you are also now crazy. So, only one thing remains: protect thyself. Therefore in yoga it is said: āhār, vihār, āchār and vichār. Four things you have to follow: Vihāra is diet. Vihāra: where to go and where not to go. Āchāra: the behavior. And vichāra: the thinking. If this is positive, then you are happy. Therefore, marriage is not the worst. If you want to marry, then do it. But be sure that this person will not leave you midway. The astrologer will ask, "Did you ever have another girlfriend or boyfriend?" Then you will say yes. He will say, "What do you want to marry now?" Marry means the first night together. That is marriage. But you live five years together and then say, "Should we marry? What do you want to marry now?" There is nothing; we meant to marry. There is a system called honeymoon. First, you have wedding ceremonies, all rituals, and in the ceremonies there are different mantras and prayers to different deities. There is only one God, but that God has many workers. Without them, God is lost. You have only one president in Hungary. But what your lower-level worker, officer, can do, your president cannot. The signature is needed from the revenue officer at the lower level. Without this signature, even your president can do nothing. If a signature is required from the lawyers, who are lower than the president, then the president cannot work without it. The president has all rights, but he should not disregard any law. Therefore, all officers and all people are the rest, the best helpers of him. Therefore, when you marry, first you must have pūjā for the nine planets, the nine grahas. There are mantras for each planet. May this planet always remain in the best constellation for your marriage. Then you have the goddess, the power which is the protector of your property, your house. Then Kuladeva, the personal patron or the god of your family dynasty. And also the Devī, not only male gods, but there are female gods too. Many, many things. This is not a joke. It has power in it. It has a meaning. And anything that has happened, is it too late? Now we have to correct for the future. If you have one tire flat in your car, it does not mean that in Budapest you will drive your car with this flat tire. You can stop and change the tire. So we can stop something, meditate, receive Gurū Kṛpā, and again bring your life in order. Otherwise, running here and there will give you nothing. Again you will come as confused as you are. That is how I made the most of it. Recording location: Hungary, Debrecen, Weekend seminar