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You need a blessing. Even you need a blessing from your wife or from your husband. It is said that you should be devoted to your partner—not like to God—but what does devotion mean? It means to be humble and kind. However, in the old tradition of India, a concept was introduced that was not according to the religion or the ṛṣis. It was put into the śāstras by some men, some selfish husbands. For a woman, after marriage, it was said that only her husband is God. Písalo je, da je za vdanou ženu—therefore they call it pati dev. Pati means the husband, and dev means god, or patnī dev. They don't say it that way, which is why these things made people angry. The feminist world became angry. I don’t know if you can imagine, but even parents would tell the girls, "It doesn’t matter what he does, even if he cuts your neck, don’t be angry and don't go against him. He is now everything for you, even your God." That is absolutely wrong. That is not good, and that is not a reason nor a belief; it is the ego of the masculine. In nature, the masculine power is always dominating, and the feminine power is always gentle—though we are not talking about these principles now. So what I am telling you is that it is good to get a blessing, good to get an opinion, and good to think things over. Otherwise, through this kusanga (bad company), like a Kaṁsa, you can be led in the wrong direction. You should do it, you can do it, you are capable, you are independent. It’s time for you to do something. Anything I did, I always asked Holy Gurujī, and sometimes I was angry. I was angry because Holy Gurujī always said, "You know what to do." I said, "Then why did I ask you about it?" Internally, I was not upset, so I said, "But I don’t know exactly, and you can advise." Gurujī said, "I’m retired now. So you know what to do, and whatever you do is good, do it. Whatever you will do is good, do it." That was a permission and a blessing. And if I had not asked, then he would say, "You didn’t even tell me." Now you have your own will. So it’s not easy. If I do like this, it’s like that. If I do like this, that is like that. If I don’t do it like this, then it’s the other way around. So the best is to always ask and get a blessing. "Father, can I go to the party today?" Ask Mama. Ask Mama. So, Mama will say, "It’s too late. Tell me, when will you come back?" So, if you don’t ask, or you ask, you will go. Then why make them unhappy? So it’s very healthy, very good for family relations, for the sake of family connection and to keep the family happy, that you should tell your parents where you are going, when you will come back, and if you are late, let them know that everything is okay but you will be late. That you deserve your parents, and that you also deserve their permission. That will make your parents so happy, and they can sleep peacefully. Do you think that your parents are happy when you don’t come home till 3 o’clock, 4 o’clock, and you are only 14, 15 years old? Even if you are 18 or 19. The feeling and the pain of the parents is indescribable toward the children. And also, the children’s love and feelings towards their parents are indescribable. My mother is already above 90 years, 94 or something like this, and she’s a great-great-grandmother. But still, her own children, whatever they do, they ask her first. When I’m going to Europe and she’s there, I first go and say, "Now I’m going. Can I go?" When I’m going to Europe and she’s there, I first go and say, "Can I go?" She will not say no, but she will be so happy that I asked her. And her heart and her mind will bless. And that blessing we need. That blessing we need from all elderly people. Your elder brother or elder sister, you should ask them also, and they will always advise you what is good for you. What I am saying to you, and why I am saying so much today, is to save and re-establish a happy family. Of course, in this modern civilization and this modern technology, the world has become a small village. So we are at far distances now. In old days, if a girl was married from Střílky to Brno, it was very far. Sometimes it took them two days to reach Brno. And now, in two days, you can make a round-the-world trip. You fly from Europe over India to Japan, San Francisco, Frankfurt, and again back to Střílky. You fly from Europe, India, Asia, San Francisco, Frankfurt, and back to Střílky. You fly from Europe, India, Japan, San Francisco, Frankfurt, and back to Střílky. Yes, from Japan to San Francisco, you will gain one day. And from Japan to San Francisco, you will gain one day. You fly on, let’s say, on the fifth of July. Morning, 10 o’clock you will come. 5th of July, morning 5 o’clock, across the time zone—so this we should know, and especially our young children should know. All young children, you should know: there is no one in this world for you who loves you so much more than your parents. And whatever your parents tell you, they mean only good for you. Whenever you have some difficulties or a hard time, don’t hesitate. Go to your parents. And as much as parents say, more than that has a Gurudev. That’s one mantra which I’ve forgotten. Holy Gurujī said often in his satsaṅg, "More than parents, God loves you, and more than God, Gurudev loves you. I will never advise you anything which is harmful for you." And that gives us a kind of security in life, that we are not alone, we have someone. You know, there’s a tradition: if your parents are not there... All people of the village had a relation like a family. Let’s say that you are married and coming from elsewhere. You are so happy that someone came from my city or village, like your own brother or sister, or father or mother. Even the animals are happy to see them again. Even animals are happy when they see you again. And for people, it is very important. That’s why Mahāprabhujī said, "I am longing for my guru brothers and sisters, who are my satsaṅghīs." Not only longing, but when I remember them, my eyes are full of tears. That’s called relation. That’s called love. So when you come to this retreat, you see so many of your guru brothers and sisters. And if someone is not here and you know that person, you ask others, "How is that one? Why didn’t that person come?" And there are some people, when someone comes, "Oh my God, again she’s here! Again she’s here! Again this crazy man is here." That means you still did not purify your heart, my dear. Open, be receptive, and develop spiritually. Develop your spirituality. Therefore, it is said in Vājan: Guru Deī Śaraṇa Tumārī.