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One thing I can tell you: when a person is gone, then you realize what you have lost. As long as you are together, you do not value it that much. But afterward, you make certain complaints to yourself—that you could have done this and that better. It means you finally find yourself guilty or weaker. I am telling you about normal, general things. After you realize you could have done better, you could have compromised more; you could have understood more. You could have tolerated more. You could have spoken more, but when it is gone, then it is somehow too late. This could be true in many, many parts of our life. Similarly, many of us who are sitting here, especially you people, probably did not value the presence of Gurujī or the darśan to get the full benefit from it. On the other hand, blessed are they who saw Gurujī with these physical eyes. And the same thing is with you. The same thing is with your parents, your partner, your children, your friends, and so on. There are two things which are hard to understand: the relation and attachment. Human relations are deeper than any other relations. The human relation with nature, human relations with animals, with the trees, the house, human relations with colleagues, friends, and very close friends—when once a deep relation takes place, then it prints certain motifs on your subconsciousness. For a certain period, you do not care about this. But when it is gone, then these patterns come out from the subconscious to the conscious. Those impressions come back from the subconscious into the conscious in the form of feelings, imaginations, memories, in dreams, in thinking, and the feeling of missing. That is not attachment, but that is a human relation. Attachment is when you only want to have something for yourself. It creates in you jealousy. You do not want to give out of your hands. Then, that relation is connected with suffering. That will provoke in you anger, hate, jealousy; you can even harm your relationship with good friends. For a certain period of time, we think, "I do not care." But such thoughts, when you think that you are not in love, be sure that one day this thought will be the cause of great suffering. Nowadays, it is very hard to create a friendship. Humans are separated by many different directions, professions, places of work, distances, then the videos, the televisions, and now the internet. Human is becoming more and more individual; it does not care about others. There was a time when whole village people used to live in the same village. Where they were born, there they would die. And people were happy that some other village people would come and live in our village—what we call immigration. It was a great shame for a king if his people had to immigrate somewhere else. It would be a great shame for the king if his inhabitants had to emigrate. It would be a shame for the father if the children had to leave the home. Happy and proud were they who could welcome other people in their kingdom, in their village, or in their family. Now, in this modern civilization, in this system which we created, humanity is suffering from four things. This is the biggest problem which we have, or which we are facing. The first problem is the environment, pollution. This is a problem throughout the whole world. No countries are left, and it is limited to humans. We are not excluded. We are included. The second problem is the immigration problem. Is the biggest international problem the immigration? And the third problem is the problem of employment. It means the existence problem, because we are not satisfied with what we have. We left our nests, we do not cultivate our nests, we do not look after our nests. And the fourth biggest problem has already begun, which is the water problem. You know that already, water is more expensive than milk. For you, it is cheaper to give people a glass of milk than a glass of mineral water. So why did these problems begin? Humans have caused these problems. This is because the modern way of living, education, and thinking—the entire system is wrong. Everything is connected with one thought, with one question, with one word. And that is what you call, "I do not care." I do not want to be like that. I will not do any more of this. "I do not care, my friends. They are not my friends..." A pure relationship without expectations, to take care of nature, about animals, about water, and about human societies—we would not have these problems today. Previously, we had to carry water a few hundred meters. And now we do not want to go even ten meters far. We want to have water, toilets, and bathrooms in our sleeping rooms. We want to get up from the bed, and the next thing is water. We do not want water even one meter far away from our cooking place. It is very interesting when you make a kitchen in a new building and you talk to the house ladies about how to organize the kitchen. If you give the cook this side and washing that side of the kitchen, they say it is too far. It is not practical. You just have to turn and go two steps to this wall. You just have to go and take a few steps forward. While many are washing potatoes, the water is still flowing. Per head, how many hundreds of liters of water per day, or thousands of liters of water per day, are we wasting? Do not think that you have enough rain and water. Very soon, it will not be. And you cannot drink water from your rivers. Before 40 years, 50 years, in your rivers there were many creatures, healthy creatures. And now there are only bacteria, or even not. So, spirituality means not only that prayer, and prayer, and "I do not care." No. Spirituality is this: you take care of this beautiful living planet. So never think "I do not care." Do not break this beautiful relation with your good friends. Do not destroy your wonderful relationship with your good friend. When you lose your confidence, then you are much more unhappy. Otherwise, at least two are unhappy: you and the person with whom you gained once the confidence. So, human life is to understand the relation. To multiply yourself with as many as you can. Kabīr Dās said in one poem: "When I was born, I was crying, and the few people who were around me, they were laughing, they were happy." But there was only one who was crying, and that was I, Kabīr Dās said. But do such work, such karma, such activities. Create such relations, so many friends, that when you die, maybe you will be happy that now you go away from all these sufferings. So one will be happy, but all will cry, that is it. So when you were born, you were the one crying, and all were happy. But when you die, you will be happy, and you will see how many will cry because you left. So do not think, do not become like that person, when you die, and someone says, "Thanks to God, he died," or, "She died." It is said there was one king who was very bad to his people. They always had to say, "Yes, sir," and "Yes, sir," and "Yes, sir," always running behind him. He had one dog, and when his dog died, the whole village went for the funeral. But when the king died, no one went except his family. All say, "Thanks to God that he died." You see the difference? Cultivating the relations. You have to give. Do not expect. Give your attention. Give your understanding. Give your hands. Give your good feelings, forgiveness, clarity, support, many, many things. Give without expectations. Do not say it is yours and not mine. And when "yours and mine" begins, when "it is his duty, not my duty" begins—there begins the differences. If someone dies beside you, it is not my duty to phone the doctor. The office and people should phone the doctor. That is it. So, when you divide the work, you have divided the whole world. You have divided yourself from everyone. So, "eko'haṁ bahu syāmī"—I am one. I was born as an individual one. I am one. I was born as one, as a single being. And now I will multiply with all, I mean, all. When I die, all will die. It means that all will feel the pain of my death. But that you have to cultivate, dear one. That is called relation. So one is never tired of working for friends. And one is never tired of making friends. And one is never tired of making friends if you feel there is an enemy. This is a part of your successful step in life. And do not expect that others will understand you as you understand. Why do others not understand you? Because others still did not have the lecture with Swamijī. So they do not know, and you have now the lecture. So it should not be like this, to cultivate the relation. Not the attachment, which creates in you anger, jealousy, hate, complexes, and division—that is bad for you. It is such a... this is a blindness, this is a madness. There you lose the love, the human qualities, and then you do the things you say, "I do not care." Then all negative things are on your side. Then you begin to count the negative things. And these are the negative steps toward the distractions. So life, successful or not successful, the success or failure of life is in your hands. We need to be aware of the environment. Pollution is not only physical pollution. The biggest pollution is mental pollution. The world to this point. We think that in the last 60 years we have been living in a democratic way, in free countries. That in the last 60 years the world has developed. But I say the world is developed towards destruction. So many diseases which have come in the last 50 years were never in the past. And within 50, 60 years, how many wars took place? It was never in the past. And how much pollution problem we are facing in the last 60 years? Within these 60 years, it was never in the past. So, you are sitting here from many different professions, many different countries. Do not think always that the government will do. The government cannot do. If the public does not help, the government is behind the public. Public is not behind government. That is a democracy. Who is minister at present? If he will not behave properly, next time he will not be minister. Therefore, they are also very alert and aware. So, the world is governed by some rich people. They design the things for the sake of the money; they make the things. And you are utilizing those things. So do not be the consumer of such things, which harm our planet, our relations, and our spiritualities. We do not want to be divided. We would like to be one. So do not separate your friends from you. Do not think that you are the best. Mahāprabhujī said in his golden teaching, and Confucius said also: "There are millions of people in this world who are much better than you." And when you think unhappy, when you feel unhappy, then think, there are millions of people more unhappy and suffering than you. Remember that there are millions of people who suffer more and are more unhappy than you are. Do not think or say, "I do not care." For any relation in this world, any relation. It may be about your house, environment, your garden, river, your garbage. You can relate to your house, friends, river, garbage, garden, water, detergents, the way you dress, what you buy, what you eat, and your friends, humans, and animals. You know, now there is bird flu. And they saw on television, they are just leaving chickens; they fill them into the garbage box. No feelings, no emotions, they are living creatures. Can you imagine that they put you inside the garbage bag? It is like when Hitler put the people in the gas in the room and put the gas in. And he did it only with humans, but now they are doing it with all. And then they are inside one big plastic bag, hundreds of them inside, suffering. Broken legs and neck, and like this, they throw them into the fire. They have feeling. They feel hungry, they feel thirsty, they feel pain. They feel cold, and they feel heat. Do you not think this karma will return back? If they all would become vegetarian, this bird flu will not attack the humans. Also, these bad cows. And many things we do not know. Only the money is governing the world, so it is not religious. It is a moral and ethical principle. It is a human. It is a feeling; it is a relation. That is a love. Love is not a physical love between male and female only. You can love your furniture. You love your kitchen. You love your car, even. You love flowers. That love is an indescribable power, and that is towards the creatures also. That is it. So maintain the relations. Cultivate the relation, and not only human friends, animal friends also. So, how many friends do you have? Count on your fingers. If you will count, you had a friend, you broke with them, you had an enemy with them now. You made some misunderstanding with them. You have lost many friends; you have quarreled with them. Can you count all your old friends? A friend is one who dies for you. That is a friend. And I will not say, "I am sorry. It is not my problem, it is your problem. Why have you done this and this?" When you have a good friendship, then it is not two bodies, but one soul. But once all, we call dosti in our Sanskrit language and Hindi language, dosti. Do means two, and satī means the truth. Both walk on the path of truth, of reality. One is going on the good way and takes the other one also to the good way. That is called Dostī. Sati comes from Satya. Do means two. Dosti. That is a friendship. When you have good friendship with your dog, the dog will never, never disappoint you. Or your horse, or your cow, or a horse, or a cow, or a cat. These animals will give their lives for you. And what are you doing for your human friends? "That is not my coffee. That is not my problem. That is not my duty." With these small things, you spoil your divine life. So, "eko'haṁ bahu syāmī"—multiply yourself with all. Make a saṅkalpa today, that is, in this coming new year. With this mind, with this brain, I will never think negatively. I will not complain, and with this tongue, I will not criticize. Even if someone is guilty, with this tongue, I will help that one to come out. Mahatma Gandhijī said, "We will fight for freedom." But without a weapon. We will not take any weapon in our hands. Because we do not hate the person, we hate the action, not the person. And therefore, your tongue should not criticize. Your tongue should support them. If they make a mistake, you should be a helper, and not throw one more knife. So, my dear, this is a life instruction for you. Maybe someone does not like it, because there are some who feel very directly now. Because they have these qualities. But I do not talk for one person, nor for you only. I talk for all who will listen to these lectures. This is the life instruction to be successful. So understand and forgive. That Jesus also said, "Father, forgive them." If he could forgive such things, can you not forgive little, little things? Which is not directly connected to you. Or maybe a little bit connected to you, but you are not able to forgive? So what kind of Jesus are you? What kind of Jesus disciple are you? Not even the dust of his feet. That is it. So, practical life is to lead life according to... Only looking at his pictures and crying and reading the Bible does not make you a Christian. Christians are those who lead life according to the Bible. There is no religion called Hinduism. Because Hinduism means the way of life. There is no religion called Christianity. It is a way of life, Christianity. And those are the instructions which I am telling you. That is it. Therefore, relations. How many friends do you have? And how many friends did you have twenty years ago? If you are 20 years old, of course. There are some who are only 18 years old. And how many friends did you have ten years ago? And how many do you have now? Are they friends? Can you count on them? Are you in oneness with them? Can you take their duty upon you? Can you tell your friend, "You are very tired, you will sleep, I will take night duty for you"? Can you tell your friend, "Please sit down and relax, I will cook for you"? Though I am very tired, I will clean your windows. You relax, please. Can you do this all? No, one day, maybe. Or in the very beginning, when you fell in love with someone. Just in the first weeks or first months. Then finished. That is it. So, how many friends have you? "Eko'haṁ bahu śyāmī." This we can understand now in this way. I am one, and I will multiply now into millions and millions. They will be my friends. Why are we here today? Because we are friends. You are my best friend. Believe me, I will be ready to give you life if it is needed. And that is friendship. I count on you. And I know that you are my best friend, and I know that I am yours. And nothing is more beautiful than this. This makes us happy. That we are looking forward to come and see, time to time. Though we have to take a long journey, what brings us together? That love, it is like a magnet, and that pulls us together. And if this is through some kushāṅga and some negative thinking, if it is gone, then though you have time, you will not come. Because you were not able to cultivate, it is too gentle. Too gentle. This love which you have is like a candle flame. And now you have to go through the storm. Now, how carefully can you protect your flame? Exactly like a tiny candle flame to protect in the big storm. It is also to cultivate and protect our friendship in this stormy worldly life. And protection of friendship in this... Svi pomazhu jakima. Niko ne pomazhe slabima. Snazan vetar će ojačati vatru. Podržaće vatru, razbuktaće vatru. And a small flame will blow off that wind, the same wind. The same wind and a little spark of the fire will support it to become a great fire, because that has a strength in it. And a weak little flame will blow it out. So, our relation and love for some of you is still too weak. It can blow off so quickly. So, you have to protect your flame and walk very carefully. Or fill a plate full of water to the top. And walk from this house to another house without dripping one drop. If you drop it, that means you are still not capable. And that is life, from this house to that house. So we need our relations, our understanding, our anger, our jealousy. Although we are right, that will harm us. You are right, but you cannot compare yourself with others. You are healthy with the heart, you can jog up to the top of the hill. But a heart-ill person can hardly even walk. Do not compare that person with you, but understand that person. That is it. That is very important. So many, many enemies created, many misunderstandings created, and many good things spoiled. Someone does not love me; they put chili here. Constantly, I have a feeling in my ears and nose. So this is what I wanted to tell you. When gone is gone. Then you can say, "Oh, I could have done this, I could have done this." Then it is too late. So, of course, Gurujī and I had a very deep, perfect relation of master and disciple. Whatever He asked, I fulfilled. And whatever I asked, He fulfilled. And now, of course, wherever I go, where we were together, suddenly it is empty. So, that is why I am telling you. What I am telling you is my feeling also. That, you know, is what Gurujī meant for us. That is it. It can be anyone. Human understands because human has the intellect, buddhi. And humans have love in the heart, a very strong love. All, every creature has love, but humans have love and the buddhi connected together. What we call the logic is to understand others' pain. Others can also be unhappy. Others can also be offended. Others also feel hungry. If your stomach is full, it does not mean that everyone's stomach is full. That is it.