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One thing I can tell you: when a person is gone, then you realize what you have lost. As long as you are together, you do not value it that much. But afterward, you make certain complaints to yourself—that you could have done this or that better. It means you finally find yourself guilty or weaker. I am speaking about normal, general things. After you realize you could have done better, you could have compromised more, you could have understood more, you could have tolerated more. You could have spoken more. But when it is gone, then it is somehow too late. This could apply to many, many parts of our life. Similarly, many of us sitting here, especially you people, probably did not value the presence of Gurujī or the darśan to get benefit from it. On the other hand, blessed are they who saw Gurujī with these physical eyes. And the same thing is with you, the same thing is with your parents, your partner, or your children, your friends, and so on. There are two things which are hard to understand: the relation and attachment. Human relations are deeper than any other relations—the human relation with nature, with animals, with the trees, the house, human relations with colleagues, friends, and very close friends. When once a deep relation takes place, then it prints certain motifs on your subconsciousness. For a certain period, you do not care about this. But when it is gone, then these patterns come out in you, from subconscious to the conscious, in the form of feelings, imaginations, memories, in dreams, in thinking, and the feeling of missing. That is not attachment, but that is a human relationship. Attachment is when you only want to have something for yourself, and it creates in you jealousy. You do not want to give it out of your hands. Then, that relation is connected with suffering. That will provoke in you anger, hate. Jealousy can even harm your relationship with good friends. For a certain period of time, we think, "I don’t care." But this kind of thinking, when you think you don’t care, be sure: one day this thought will be the cause of great destruction and suffering. Nowadays, it is very hard to create a friendship. Humans are separated by many different directions, professions, places of work, distances, then the videos, the televisions, and now the internet. Human is becoming more and more individual; it does not care about others. There was a time when whole village people used to live in the same village where they were born, and there they were dying, and people were happy. That some other village people would come and live in our village—what we call immigration—was a great shame for a king if his people had to immigrate somewhere else. It was a shame for that father that children had to go away from the home. And happy and proud were they who could welcome the other people in their kingdom, in their village, or in their family. Now, in this modern civilization, in this system which we created—the modern system—humanity is suffering from four things. This is the biggest problem which we have, or which we are facing. The first problem is the environment, pollution. This is a problem throughout the whole world. No countries are left, and it is limited to humans. We are not excluded; we are included. The second problem is the immigration problem. It is the biggest international problem of immigration. And the third problem is the problem of employment. It means the existence problem, because we are not satisfied with what we have. We left our nest. We do not cultivate our nest. We do not look after our nest. And the fourth biggest problem has already begun, which is the water problem. You know that already: water is more expensive than milk. It is for you cheaper to give people a glass of milk than a glass of mineral water. So why has this problem come? It began because humans have caused these problems, and this is because of the modern way of living. Education and thinking, the whole entire system is wrong. Everything is connected with one thought, one question, with one word. And that is what you call, "I don’t care." I don’t want to be like that. I will not do any more of this. I don’t care about my friends; they are not my friends. I want to be myself, and so on. This is a general problem today in the whole world, and we are all suffering for this. Should we have thought to cultivate our relation, a pure relation without expectations, to take care about nature, about animals, about water, and about human societies, we would not have today these problems. Previously, we had to carry water a few hundred meters. And now we do not want to go even ten meters far. We want to have water, toilets, and bathrooms in our sleeping rooms. We want to get up from the bed, and the next thing is water. We do not want even one meter far away from our cooking place, water. It is very interesting. When you make a kitchen, a new building, and you talk to the house ladies now about how to organize the kitchen: if you give the cooking this side and washing that side of the kitchen, this is too far. It is not practical. Just you return and go two steps to this hall. And many ladies, or many cooks, they are cleaning the potatoes, and water is running. So, per head, how many hundred liters of water per day, or thousand liters of water per day, are we wasting? Do not think that you have enough rain and water. Very soon it will not be, and you cannot drink water from your rivers. Before 40 years, 50 years, in your rivers, because there were many creatures, healthy creatures… Now, there is only bacteria, or even not this. So, spirituality means not only prayer and prayer, and "I don’t care." No. Spirituality is this: you take care of this beautiful, living planet. So never think "I don’t care." Do not break this beautiful relation with your good friends. When you lose confidence, then you are definitely more unhappy. Otherwise, at least two are unhappy: you and the person with whom you gained, once, the confidence. So human life is to understand the relation. To multiply yourself with as many as you can. Kabīr Dās said in one poem: "When I was born, I was crying, and the few people who were around me, they were laughing, they were happy, but there was only one who was crying, and that was I, the Kabīr. But do such a work, such a…" Karma, such activities create such relations, so many friends, that when you will die, maybe you will be happy that now you go away from all these sufferings. One will be happy, but all will cry. That’s it. So when you were born, you were crying and all were happy, but when you die, you will be happy and you will see how many will cry because you left. So do not think, do not become like that person, when you die, someone says, "Thanks to God, he died," or, "Thanks to God, she died." He said there was one king who was very bad to his people, and they always had to say, "Yes, sir," and "Yes, sir," and "Yes, sir," always running behind him. He had one dog, and when his dog died, the whole village went for the funeral. But when the king died, no one went except his family. All say, "Thanks to God that he died." See the difference. Cultivating the relations, you have to give. Do not expect. Give your attention, give your understanding, give your hands, give your good feelings, forgiveness, clarity, support, many, many things. Give. Do not say it is yours and not mine. When "yours" and "mine" begin, it is his duty, not my duty; there begins the difference. If someone dies beside you, it is not my duty to phone the doctor. The office of people should phone the doctor. That’s it. So when you divide the work, you have divided the whole world. You have divided yourself from everyone, so I am one. I was born as an individual one. And now I will multiply with all, I mean all. When I will die, all will die means that all will feel that pain of my day, but that you have to cultivate, dear one. That is called relation. So one is never tired to work for the friends, and one is never tired to make the friends. And one is never tired of making friends if you feel there is an enemy. This is a part of your successful step in life. And do not expect that others always understand you as you understand. Why don’t others understand you? Because others still did not have the lecture with Swāmījī. So they do not know, and you have now the lecture. So it should not be like this. Cultivate the relation, not the attachment, which creates in you anger, jealousy, hate, complexes, and divides you. That is bad for you, and it is such a blindness. This is a madness. There, you lose the love, the human qualities, and then you do the things. You said, "I don’t care," and then all negative things are on your side. Then you begin to count the negative things, and these are the negative steps towards the distractions. So life, successful or not successful, is in your hands. So we become aware of the environment. Pollution is not only physical pollution. The biggest pollution is mental pollution. It is the mental pollution which has brought the world to this point today. We think that in the last 60 years we have been living in a democratic way, in a free country, that in the last 60 years the world has developed. But I say the world is developed toward destruction. So many diseases which have come in the last 50 years were never in the past. And within 50 or 60 years, how many wars took place? It was never like this in the past. And how much pollution problem we are facing in the last 60 years? Within these 60 years, it was never in the past. So you are sitting here from many different professions, many different countries. Do not think always that the government will do. The government cannot do if the public does not help. The government is behind the public. The public is not behind the government. The government is behind the public, not the other way around. That is a democracy. The one who is minister present, if he will not behave properly, next time he will not be minister. And therefore, they are also very alert and aware. So, the world is governed by some rich people. They design the things for the sake of the money; they make the things. And you are utilizing those things. So, do not be the consumer of such things which harms our planet, our relations and our spirituality. We do not want to be divided. We would like to be one. So do not separate your friends from you. Do not think that you are the best. Mahāprabhujī said in his golden teaching, and Confucius said also, there are millions of people in this world who are much better than you. And when you think unhappy, when you feel unhappy, then think there are millions of people more unhappy and suffering than you. So do not think and never say, "I don’t care." Care for any relation in this world, any relation. It may be about your house, your environment, your garden, river, your garbage, water, washing powders, detergents. Way of dressing, what you buy, what you eat, and your friends, humans and animals. You know, now that the bird flew, and they saw on television, they are just living chickens, they fill the garbage box. No feelings, no emotions. They are living creatures. Can you imagine that they put you inside the garbage bag? It is like when Hitler put the people in the gas in the room and put the gas in. And he did it only with humans, but now they are doing it with all. And then they are inside one big plastic bag, hundreds of them inside, suffering. Broken legs and neck, and like this, and they throw them into the fire. They have feeling. They feel hungry, they feel thirsty, they feel pain. They feel cold, and they feel heat. Do not you think these karmas will return? If they all would become vegetarian, this bird flu will not attack humans. Also, these bad cows, and many things we do not know. Only the money is governing the world, so it is not a religious thing. It is a moral and ethical principle. It is a human. It is a feeling, it is a relation. That is love. Love is not a physical love between male and female only. You can love your furniture. You can love your kitchen. You can love your car. You can love flowers. That love is an indescribable power, and that is towards the creatures also. That’s it. So maintain the relations. Cultivate the relation, and not only human friends, animal friends also. So, how many friends do you have? Count on your fingers. If you will count, you had a friend, you broke with them, you had an enemy with them now, you made some misunderstanding with them. Can you count all the friends? A friend is one who would die for you. That is a friend. And not, we will say, "I’m sorry. It’s not my problem, it’s your problem. Why have you done this and this?" When you have a good friendship, then in our two bodies, but one soul. We call dostī in our Sanskrit language and Hindi language. Dostī, do means two, and satī means the truth. Both walk on the path of truth, of reality. One is going on the good way and takes the other one also to the good way. That is called dostī. Satī comes from satya. Do means two. Dostī. That is a friendship. When you have a good friendship with your dog, when you have a good relationship with your dog, that dog will never, never disappoint you. Or your horse, or your cow, or your cat. Always. Even animals, they give their life for you. Now, what are you doing for your human friends? It is not my coffee. It is not my problem. It is not my duty. With these small things, you spoil your divine life. So aiko’haṁ bahu syāmī, multiply yourself with all. Make a saṅkalpa today, that is coming, the new year. With this mind, with this brain, I will never think negatively. For this New Year’s Eve, I vowed that I will never think negatively with this brain. I will not complain, and with this tongue, I will not criticize. Even if someone is guilty, with this tongue, I will help that one to come out. Mahatma Gandhi said, "We will fight for freedom." But without weapons. We will not take any weapons in our hands. Because we do not hate the person. We hate the action, not the person. And therefore, your tongue should not criticize. That is why your tongue should not criticize, your tongue should help them, support them. If they made a mistake, you should be a helper, and not throw one more knife. So, my dear, these are life instructions for you. Maybe someone does not like it, because there are some who feel very directly now, because they have these qualities. But I do not talk for one person. Not only for you, I speak for all who will listen to this lecture. These are the life instructions to be successful, so understand and forgive. That Jesus also said, "Father, forgive them." If he could forgive such things, can you not forgive little, little things? Which is not directly connected to you? Or maybe a little bit connected to you, but you are not able to forgive? So, what kind of Jesus are you? What kind of Jesus disciples are you? You are not even the dust of his feet. That’s it. So, lead a practical life. To lead life according to him, only looking at his pictures and crying and reading the Bible does not make you Christians. Just looking at his pictures, crying, reading the Bible does not make you a Christian. Christians are those who lead life according to the Bible. There is no religion called Hinduism. Because Hinduism means the way of life. There is no religion called Christianity. It is a way of life, is Christianity. That’s it. And those are the instructions which I am telling you. That’s it. Therefore, relations. How many friends do you have? And how many friends did you have twenty years ago? If you are 20 years old, of course. There are some who are only 18 years old. And how many friends did you have ten years ago? And how many do you have now? Are they friends? Can you count on them? Are you in oneness with them? Can you take their duty upon you? Can you tell your friend, "You are very tired, you are asleep, I will take night duty for you"? Can you tell your friend, "Please sit down and relax, I will cook for you"? Though I am very tired, I will clean your windows. You relax, please. Can you do this all? No, one day, maybe. Or, in the very beginning, when you fell in love with someone. Just in the first weeks or first months, then finished. So, how many friends have you? Eko’haṁ bahu syāmi. This we can understand now in this way: I am one. And I will multiply now in millions and millions. They will be my friends. Why are we here today? Because we are friends. You are my best friend. Believe me. I will be ready to give you life, if it is needed. And that is friendship. I count on you. And I know that you are my best friend, and I know that I am yours. And nothing is more beautiful than this. This makes us happy. That we are looking forward to come and see you from time to time. Though we are to take a long journey, what brings us together? That love, it is like a magnet, and that pulls us together. And if this is through some kuśāṅga and some negative thinking, if it is gone, then though you have time, you will not come. Because you were not able to cultivate, it is too gentle. Too gentle. So this love which you have is like a candle flame, and now you have to go through the storm. Now, how carefully you can protect your flame. Exactly like a tiny candle flame to protect in the big storm. Isto tako kao što je zaštita tog plemićkog sveće u Oluji. Isto tako je teška i zaštita prijateljstva u ovom olujnom svetovnom životu. Neko je rekao u nekoj lepoj pesmi. Pavan jagavat agako, dipa i deta bujaj. Sabve sahayak sabalke, everybody is helping the strong one. Svi pomažu jakima. Kohun nirbal sahay, no one is helping the weak one. Niko ne pomaže slabima. Pavan jagavat agako, the big wind will make the fire more strong. The strong wind will strengthen the fire. It will support the fire. It will break the fire. And that same wind will extinguish a small flame. The same wind will support it to become a great fire. Because that has a strength in it, and the weak little flame will blow it off. So our relation and love for some of you is still too weak. It can blow off so quickly. So you have to protect your flame and walk very carefully, or fill a plate full of water and walk from this house to the other house without dripping one drop. If you drop it, that means you are still not capable. That is the life from this house to that house. So we need our relations, our understanding, our anger, our jealousy. Though we are right, that will harm us. You are right, but you cannot compare yourself with others. You are healthy with the heart; you can jog up to the top of the hill. But a heart-ill person can hardly even walk. Do not compare that person with you, but understand that person. That’s it. That is very important. So many, many enemies created. Many misunderstandings created. And many good things are spoiled. Oh, someone does not love me. They put chili here. Constantly, I have a feeling in my ears and nose. So slowly. So this is what I wanted to tell you. When gone is gone. Then you can say, "Oh, I could have done this, I could have done this." Then it is too late. So, of course, Gurujī and I had a very deep, perfect relation of master and disciple. Gurujī and I had a very deep, perfect relationship, the Guru and the disciple. Whatever he asked, I fulfilled. Whatever I asked, he fulfilled. Now, of course, wherever I go, where we were together, suddenly it is empty. So, that is why I am telling you, what I am telling you is my feeling also, that you know, what Gurujī meant for us, that’s it. So it can be anyone, so human understand, because human has the intellect, buddhi, and human has love in the heart, very strong love, very strong. All, every creature has love, but human, everyone has love and the buddhi together, connected. What we call the logic is to understand others’ pain. Others can also be unhappy. Others can also be offended. Others also feel hungry. If your stomach is full, it does not mean that everyone’s stomach is full. That’s it.