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There is a question regarding a problem with depression, specifically a depression arising from the loss or disappointment caused by a friend who left. You were together for five years and now cannot overcome it. This is, unfortunately, a common situation in the world today, influenced by modern ways of life, education, and many other factors. I am sorry for your pain, and I wish that perhaps your friend will return. But you are a yoga practitioner, and yoga philosophy is something highly developed. It has certain principles. The first principle—not only of yoga but generally—is this: nothing exists forever, and nothing belongs to you. During the communist regime in your country, I worked for over twenty years. My work was very successful and accepted, especially concerning yoga and the life-death cycle. You know, the communists had some similar principles: "Nothing belongs to you." When I said this, they were happy. They said, "Thank you, Master. We understand now, and we don't suffer anymore." And you know who the communist people were? All of you, yes. So it is merely that some systems have changed, that is all. Many people were fighting for communism. Some yogīs were against my teachings because they wanted to teach themselves. They said, "We are communists, and we don't want to be vegetarians, and we don't want mantras, and so on." These same people now criticize communism. But I always remain neutral. So, nothing belongs to you. I spoke of this, I think, this morning as well. No wealth belongs to you, no friends belong to you, not your parents, nor your brothers and sisters, nor your husband or wife. Even this body does not belong to you. One day you have to say goodbye. If you do not want to say goodbye to this body, then the body decides something. That body becomes a burden in your life, so you are pendling between your house and the doctor's. Finally, your body deteriorates so much that you have to renounce it. Whatever you have and think is yours—that is ignorance. It is temporary. It is given, and it will be taken. The sun rises, and very soon the sun will set. But that does not mean the sun will not rise again. The sun will rise again. Therefore, it is the greatest stupidity to be sad if someone left you, your boyfriend or girlfriend. Say, "God, thank you that this burden is gone," because if he or she loved me, they would not have gone away. And who didn't love me, doesn't love me, and went away—why should I be worried about that? Bye-bye. That is it. Therefore, it is called Eko-Brahma-Dvitīya-Nāsti in Vedānta. Only one is the reality, and where there is duality, it is non-reality. And that one is your Ātmā, your Self, or God. That is all. Everyone will disappoint you. Even you will disappoint yourself, but the Lord will never disappoint you. Behold God and be always happy. There is a story. A farmer was working very hard in the field. At lunchtime, his wife gave him some food, as she did every day. That is nice of the ladies. Ladies have certain qualities which a man does not have. It is in the tendency of the ladies—the motherly love, the giving. Whether it is for your husband, your children, friends, or a guest, ladies always give. So there are certain very good qualities which men do not have. And there are some other qualities, thanks to God, that men do not have. That is it. Sorry. So, every day she used to give him food. At lunchtime, he stopped working, had his lunch, and afterward lay down to rest—what we call yoga nidrā. That man began to dream. He dreamed that he died and was buried or cremated. He was in the astral world, saw all his karma, and then again received a human birth. He had very good parents and a very happy childhood with a loving mother and father. Then, when he was about 25, he married a very good wife. Later, he had children. By the time he was about 40, he had five children. Forty years passed, and then someone came and woke him up. He opened his eyes. The dream was gone. He looked at his watch; only about fifteen minutes had passed. That is why I spoke to you yesterday about creation, our planet, and time. This time is only so intensively valid for our planet, for humans, because this is called the mortal world. Everything is intense in this world. In his dream, he was born, married, and had children. Then someone woke him and said, "You must come home," without explaining why. He understood something had happened, so he came home. His wife was crying. His parents were crying. The whole family was sad and crying because their only child had died. He sat thinking. People thought he was in shock. They said, "Hey, Mister, your only child died. Don't you feel pity? You don't show any sadness." He said, "Yes, I am overthinking about what you are thinking. I am thinking about for which child I should cry now. I just left four or five children and a happy family. Should I cry for them? First, should I cry for my child who died?" When we are in a dream, this world disappears. When we wake up, the dream disappears. Perhaps we are dreaming now. The reality is somewhere different. So now, for whom should we cry? For whom should we be sad? For whom should we be depressed? When it is not permanent and it is not coming back to us? So, what you have, you have. Where it's gone, it's gone. If it was nice, then you have a nice memory. If it was terrible, you have a terrible memory—try to forget it. Do not ruin your life. Do not destroy your life. That is it. What comes, comes; what goes, goes. Therefore, do not be sad and do not be depressed. Be in deep rest, and deep rest is the best.