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Develop self confidence

A spiritual discourse on acceptance, wisdom, and applying yoga to daily life.

"We cannot promise or expect perfect health for our entire lives. There will always be something, and we must learn to accept it."

"Learn to master situations with your vivekā, your wisdom. It is as it is, and while it may be changeable, acceptance is key."

A teacher addresses a group, explaining the core aim of achieving harmony through Yoga in Daily Life. Using the analogy of a tree's natural cycles, he discusses accepting the body's aging process and life's inevitable changes. He emphasizes using wisdom to navigate thoughts and life situations, illustrating the point with a parable about a grieving woman and a wise sādhu. The talk covers maintaining relationships with tolerance, the importance of self-respect, and using mantra and meditation for spiritual understanding.

Filming location: Strilky, Cz.

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You are all most welcome. Our main aim is to develop our physical, mental, social, and spiritual health through Yoga in Daily Life. You see this name everywhere it is advertised. The book itself is titled Yoga in Daily Life: Harmony for Body, Mind, and Soul. This is our goal: to achieve that harmony of body, mind, and soul. But we must also understand how to restore this harmony when we fall into disharmony. The dharma of the body is to be born, grow, and die. This process cannot be stopped. Consider this tree under which we are sitting. It blooms in spring with buds and leaves. In summer, the leaves are dark green. By November, all the leaves will fall. In winter, the trees stand bare. This is a natural process we cannot alter. We are born with a gentle, healthy body. It grows, we have good hair. But after reaching the peak of growth, it is like midday; then comes the afternoon. The skin and hair change color. We cannot stop this. In the afternoon, as the sun sets, the body's shadow grows longer. This signifies that every movement and thought casts a long influence. Soon, sunset will come. It is said everyone prays to the rising sun, but no one prays to the setting sun. Unfortunately, this is how it is. Everyone admires children, but few admire the elderly. That is life. Therefore, we cannot promise or expect perfect health for our entire lives. There will always be something, and we must learn to accept it. We continue with repairs so the motor of life keeps going. By nature, some are healthier. Sometimes it is interesting to see a single leaf clinging to the top of a tree after all others have fallen. That leaf has a long life, but the first storm will take it too. So, for physical, mental, social, and spiritual health, we must learn to maintain and be satisfied with what is. Thank God it is as it is and not worse. The first lesson is to learn to accept everything that happens in life—physically, mentally, emotionally, intellectually, socially, spiritually. If you do not accept, it is your problem, for reality remains. To resist is to swim against the current. Through yoga, we try to balance our nature as much as possible. It is a practical way. We gain nothing by mere talking and listening, though inspiration is important. Inspiration is a great motivation that leads us to action. Here, we will practice āsanas, prāṇāyāmas, yog-nidrā, and more. These practices will positively affect our body, mind, consciousness, and soul. But the effect depends on you. Within a minute, through your own thinking, you can become the happiest or the most unhappy person in the world. So, do not stop thinking; instead, guide your thoughts with wisdom and knowledge. For every life situation, use your wisdom to find an answer, a solution, and accept it. Thinking is vital for humans and animals. When we do not get what we wish for, we create stories in our mind as self-protection, but this can turn into self-destruction. We judge ourselves. First, try to assess your life situation to find an answer. Even if you do not understand, simply say, "I do not understand." Why suffer if you do not understand? And why suffer if you do understand? Because you understand it is as it is and will be as it will be. Learn to emerge from situations—emotional, intellectual, mental, and health problems. We humans are involved in many things; this is how you should overcome. Secondly, it is said good health leads to balanced thinking. Without good health—be it a stomach ache, headache, depression, interpersonal conflict, or fever—your thinking weakens. You lose self-confidence and become overly sensitive to others' words and opinions. But what to do? If you have a back problem, do not shout at your husband. What has the poor man done? It is by nature you have a back problem. It is not right to always blame him, saying, "You are the cause of my back problem because I iron every day, clean the floors, vacuum, and cook." The husband may also have his problems: "I am getting old, tired, work too hard, have no money left—you are guilty of it all. If you weren't in my life, I would be a happy, rich man on holiday. When I come home, no one would shout at me. Oh God, what karma I have to have such a wife. In my next life, I will ask God for no wife." This means you are placing guilt on someone else because you do not accept. If she were not in your life, you might be in jail. She is your great protector. And you know what would happen to you if he were not in your life? I need not say. Therefore, learn to live together with compromise, tolerance, and understanding. The relationship between husband and wife is not merely physical or emotional; it is something higher. It is about caring for someone you can trust, to whom you can give everything, knowing it will not be misused. Learn to master situations with your vivekā, your wisdom. It is as it is, and while it may be changeable, acceptance is key. There was a young lady whose husband died. Upon hearing the news, she went into shock, cried, and refused to accept his death. It was very hard to take the body away, and she could not accept his burial. She sat in the graveyard day and night, calling, "Get up, come out." People tried to calm and explain to her, but she insisted, "My husband will come back. He is not dead; he cannot die. Even if he died, he will come back because we love each other." She rejected all suggestions. In that village, a sādhu arrived. People told him of the lady who screamed in the graveyard all night, disturbing everyone's sleep. The sādhu said he would try to help. He took a beautiful cup, drank tea from it, and walked through the graveyard. The lady watched as he walked back and forth, drinking tea, while she screamed for her husband. When he came within ten meters of her, he let the cup fall from his hand. It shattered into many pieces. He then sat down and began to wail, "Oh, my dear cup, come back! I cannot live without you! My darling cup, how nice you were! You cannot separate from me!" The lady looked at him and asked, "Are you crazy?" He replied, "Why? It is broken." She said, "A broken cup cannot come back." He then asked her, "Then are you crazy? Your husband died; he cannot come back." At that moment, she realized, "Yes, he died." She was sad, but she accepted it and went away. Her own knowledge helped her overcome. It was she who told the sādhu a broken cup cannot return. The knowledge that a dead person cannot return was within her; it just needed to be recognized to help her consciousness. In this world of saṃsāra, we face many situations with family, children, relatives, neighbors, and friends. We care for them when they are ill or in accident, but sometimes we feel lost, thinking we cannot emerge from our grief. If you wish to come out, you must understand: this world is changing; it is a dream. What was yesterday is today's dream. You cannot relive yesterday; it is gone. If it was a good dream, keep it in memory. If it was a bad dream, forget it. That is all you can do. Therefore, develop self-confidence and willpower. God is in your willpower, and you will achieve what you wish. Have confidence, repeat your personal mantra—the one you received. The mantra is one of your most faithful guides in life and a powerful tool to achieve super consciousness. Follow the Master's words; that is the ultimate truth. Give up laziness and doubt, and lead a life in harmony. This means no one can be physically immortal in this mortal world. No one can be perfectly healthy forever; illness will come, be it infection, accident, or other causes. We pray to God that it may not be too painful. We must offer our body back to the lap of Mother Earth for eternal peace. We came from her, and we must return to her. This will happen whether you accept it or not. Therefore, work spiritually to understand. Practice your mantra and meditation to develop spiritually and comprehend what life means: why you were born, what you are doing, and how you are living. Life is very short. Do not torture yourself mentally. Be happy. Whatever comes is a divine blessing. You cannot ask God for only summer all year, for then you would be unhappy at Christmas with no snow, skiing, water, or food. The seasons change for our good. We may think it would be good to be 10 or 15 years old forever, able to jump and play. But children want to grow. Would you want your child to remain five years old while you stay as you are? If your child did not grow, you would go to the doctor. You must make space for the new generation to grow as the old generation recedes. This is nature. Therefore, learn to overcome every life situation through your own wisdom. There is no one in this world you can blame for anything that happens to you. It happened because you are here. If you were not here, nothing would have happened. Understand your being in this world. Do not push your emotions, thoughts, and problems onto others. Even if others speak harshly to you, it is still your problem, not theirs. Because if you were not here, they could not say those things. If someone calls you a terrible student or a stupid person, you can say, "Yes, it is true," because you are here. If you were not, no one would say it. So accept the situation. The wise are those who do not get angry, nervous, or throw things away and run. But where would you run? Environmentalists say we live in a throw-away society, but where do we throw? Whatever we discard remains on Mother Earth and creates pollution. You think you can run away, but where? Nowhere in the universe can you hide. Even a fool will find you. And do you know who that fool is who will find you? Your own mind. Your mind will say, "Why are you hiding?" That madman will force you to run, find you, and deny you peace. This is in your hands. You are wise and strong enough to handle it. Self-confidence, self-discipline, and self-respect are crucial. Self-respect means to respect others. If you respect others, they will respect you. If you do not, they will not respect you at all. To gain self-respect, you must respect others. Where you cannot respect others, that is called ego. This is the difference between self-respect and ego. If you cannot respect others, your ego is too big and will destroy you. If you respect others, you will receive love, respect, and attention. You must take the first step.

This text is transcribed and grammar corrected by AI. If in doubt what was actually said in the recording, use the transcript to double click the desired cue. This will position the recording in most cases just before the sentence is uttered.

The text contains hyperlinks in bold to three authoritative books on yoga, written by humans, to clarify the context of the lecture:

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