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You are already in the second generation, and I stand in the fourth. My students have children who themselves have children. With children, you simply cannot do anything as you might wish, because the world situation is different. The world situation is completely different, society is completely different, and living conditions are also completely different. As I said, the techniques are different, the school system is different, and the children have a completely different attitude and vision of the world than we do. The people who experienced the First World War, then shortly after the Second World War, and lived through the poverty in between—their experience is very, very different. Therefore, children today have no sense of that life. They have no such worries; they take things for granted. They had to have money, whereas when I was younger, that was out of the question. I didn't even know what money meant. This is how it is. But that means we should understand and observe the youth. We might say something they do not like. But when the children start to say what they did not like, then they will get upset. Therefore, take it as it is. Just relax. Let it be, that's all. Because I have so many students, it is like with my family, children, and so on. You cannot imagine how many people complain every single day. There are very few who call me and say, "Hello Swāmījī, how are you? I love you very much, and you are good," and so on. There may be such a call once in three years. Otherwise, whenever one calls, it is always about problems. When you call, you are always confronted with problems. And when he calls, it is never about personal problems, but always about general situations. Everyone expects that Swāmījī will only focus on me, or that he should listen to what I say and why I say it, not others. As the other saying goes, the bigger the family, the bigger the problems. Therefore, it is very important that we lower our expectations on both sides. The people of Burgenland have different expectations of the chancellors, Austrian chancellors, than those from Vorarlberg. The people of Vorarlberg have a completely different dialect, and the culture is entirely different from that of Burgenland. Now, if the Chancellor supports the Burgenlanders a little, the others feel offended. When support is given there, then the others feel hurt. But thank God, Austria is a small country. But in a country like China or India or America, you have to satisfy everyone. The situation with children at the moment is such that we do not understand them, and they do not understand us. Because ethics is lost. For us, it is ethics. But in today's time, modern psychology asks, what is ethics? There is none. It is a fear of people, that is all. The computer says there is no word for "excuse." No, the computer does not know these words. We say, "I'm sorry," but the computer will never say "I'm sorry." There is too much technology and therefore too many friends, too many students, too many acquaintances, too many children. You cannot change how things are in the world right now. So, take it as it comes, whenever you can. Try to understand, otherwise just let it be. And otherwise, you bless yourself with health. And be certain, the child has more difficulties with you than you have with them. That is how it is. We must see both sides. Therefore, make a saṅkalpa, breathe in deeply, and say, "Okay, that's it." Nowadays the children say, "My birthright is to have pocket money from you, mother and father. It's your mistake; you brought me into this world, so everything belongs to me. Either you give it to me or I take it." That is that. So, always try to let go, then it will come back again. You must understand the situation of the young girl or young woman—that she does not have only you, but there are many other circumstances in life, and it is difficult for the child. Then, it is again human nature that when a person faces misfortunes everywhere—someone scolds, someone says you must expect it properly, someone says you are stupid or something like that, and everywhere there is anger and so on—but you cannot shout back. And you suppress that. You come home, and now you want everything to be like a lightning rod. And who is the lightning rod? Either your mother, first and foremost, or your father, or your wife, or your husband. So, when the man comes home from the office and shouts a little and is stricter than usual, the wife must not react at all, nor be angry or sad. She should understand: these cries belong to his office. Unfortunately, he cannot release them there. So, he frees himself here and says, "Yes, okay." That is it. You can open yourself and scold, be angry only where you have trust. Where you have love, you might say, "I am foolish," and so on, but afterwards everything is fine again. Because that person trusts. This person relies on you, believing that you are the one who understands, forgives, and accepts them. And so it is with the children, who live in different worlds. The grandparents have a different upbringing, the parents have a different opinion. And you have a completely different opinion on education, while your external world, kindergarten, and school have another. And in freedom, then friends, and there are other situations. So, just accept it as it is. You cannot change everything right now. The young children come with yellow hair, like this and like that. As I say, the straight one, she dragged it away. His hair and all, like that. And often those who come for a blessing come with the shops. Shops are everything. And when I give a blessing, it is... it is a completely different feeling. And therefore, just let it be. The young children, they want to enjoy life and that's okay. So, oh God, this child or that child, okay, good, how wonderful. Then say, "Beautiful, good, bravo, you have broken the bicycle, very good, we will buy a new one. You have fallen, injured your knee, don’t worry, we'll put a plaster on it. A plate broke, very good, we'll buy one; we finally get a new one again." So let the negative turn into positive. This is a time when you can only get through carefully. If you want to uproot nettles, you must carefully go deep to the root and slowly pull them out; if you come at it hastily, it will infect you. This is the situation of the world. So, be careful, remain relaxed inwardly. When the time comes, it comes. One master was about to pass away. He is a very well-known person; he is known throughout the entire world. And they said, "What about your students afterwards? You are leaving." And he said, "It's not my problem, it's their problem. I go." Of course, but I would say that was irresponsible; it should not be that way. But this is how the world is at the moment. Otherwise, this situation will persist. In this room, where so many of us are seated, I do not think that everyone is so kind and says so; some grit their teeth. And so it is now. Hagenau, you say you need to regulate your jaw alignment. That is unnecessary. The other side is very important, that you get jaw regulation, because the dentist gets paid. This is how one supports an economy. This is very good. I am very glad that you are mentioning these points. I say, I also have a problem with having several children. And a child, I can say this quite openly, the Bagdana, the Santos. She was born, more or less, in my hands. I have loved them very much. And so, and now she doesn’t come. And I was like, "I’m coming," she doesn’t greet. And I say, "My God, I loved and supported the child so much, and now she doesn’t even look at me." And I say, "Is she coming?" No, no. And she sits there texting. So I get upset. But then I said, "No, I must not get upset. I should understand her well, that this is her current life situation. I should be there as a helper, a supporter. And how can she be helped? Don't disturb, that's all. Do not be angry, oh human. You may be angry all day, but you are not meant to be angry." So take it as it is. And so, there are plenty of children of all our students, the students who now have grown-up children, who have a different opinion, a different society, and they think, "Yes, my mother is foolish, but what can I say? Let them be and meditate so that she has peace." Thinking children like this, or "my father is like that." Like a Yoga-Nidrā. Relax the whole body. And therefore, I have absolutely no problem with sleeping. I go and I say, all is closed. Endure the phone and relax. So understand the situation, and a great help is that you do not help. That you find relaxing. And where you can, you can help. And this is not just your problem—thank you for touching on this point—but you see, you also have a child-related problem, not even your own; she also has a problem, not even her own; I also have no problem because it is not mine, and so many do not claim ownership of it. And therefore, Sabadina hotana eka shaman—every day is not an equal day. Every day is a blessing; every day is not the same day for ordinary people, weltlichen Menschen. And every day is a golden day for the orphans or saints. A saint, day by day, rises higher in position, while the worldly day by day sets lower. Today, a president has been elected; tomorrow is one day less. The day after tomorrow, already two days less. And so it slips away day by day. But just as all of you saints sit, your position is day by day. Wisdom is day by day; it grows, it becomes brighter and brighter. So learn to let go and not focus on the gut; it is like a prāṇa, it is like a warmth that suddenly becomes hot. Then the best thing is to lean back in the chair, take a deep breath, and say, "Ah, my little cat, sitting out there guarding the birds." Breathe in and out deeply, and it will be released again. Let go. Let go of what? Internally. If we do not yet let go inwardly with wisdom, it causes much, much pain, especially in the back area. And most of them are here in our torso, the entire torso, where the organs reside. And of course the head as well, so that people experience pain, migraines, and so on. The doctor finds nothing at all. So this is a kind of tension from many, many years. Many, many years. And sleep is very important for all of us. Sleep is very, very important. One must sleep at least 8 hours within 24 hours. And that is very important. You can divide it into two parts. And resting in the afternoon is also very good. But of course, one must work; then you cannot just lie down in your office in Yoga-Niederlachen. But relaxation and sleep are very important. So, have clarity in the mind and also in the body. Everyone, you have, how shall I say, a highest alarm point, yes, a limit. In your life, the day begins when you decide to marry. This is the highest alarm point. And then, the second day is when you find out that now your wife is pregnant or you are pregnant. This is a critical day. And then day by day it grows stronger and stronger, as a child is born. And now you must realize that throughout your life you will encounter situations that you cannot master or understand. So, joy and these unpleasant things both go hand in hand. Sugar and pressure, as was said yesterday. We, not only humans but all living beings, care for children and families. And we humans understand more with our intellect; nothing is indifferent to us—in English, it is said, we do care, we do care about others. And that is why it is not a matter of saying, "I don't care," and then going off to do whatever you want. One should not say that. Do what you can, within your limit. And if you cannot do anything, at least be there when they need you. That is all.