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Free yourself from the attachment

A spiritual discourse on the nature of attachment, using parables and practical advice.

"Where your attachment flows, there your life will flow; there you will return."

"Love is different than attachment. As long as you are not above this worldly attachment—which also means family attachment—you are bound."

The speaker narrates a parable of a ṛṣi whose deep attachment to a rescued deer leads to his rebirth as a fawn, illustrating how attachment binds the soul. He expands on this lesson, distinguishing between healthy love and binding attachment, using analogies of a tethered horse and a cow trapped in a burning stall. The talk addresses familial relationships, suggesting that excessive attachment, even to children or spouses, is a source of suffering and a barrier to spiritual freedom, advising discernment and surrender to divine will.

Recording location: Czech Republic, Strilky, Summer seminar

People often make a mistake when they read that a yogī goes to the forest, meditates, and doesn't need anything. I agree, a yogī goes to the forest and meditates and doesn't need anything—but only for six hours. After six hours, you are searching for where the water is, where the food is, and where the next bus to the village is. Therefore, that was that time. Now, whatever we would like to achieve, we should achieve it where we are. Or you have your house somewhere, a small house and garden, and you grow your food. You collect your rainwater, and that's it. Anyhow, there was a ṛṣi who had a small hut in the forest. In front of his hut flowed a creek. One day, he was sitting outside his hut at about eleven o'clock, and a hunter was running behind a deer to kill it. The deer was a pregnant female. The hunter was running behind her, and she wanted to cross the little creek. She made a long jump and managed to jump over, but after a few meters, she lost the embryo. She ran away. That ṛṣi took care of that embryo. He was looking after this small baby, and thanks to God, slowly that baby survived, became strong, and began to grow. He became so very much attached to this deer; for him, the deer was everything. He was completely lonely, and now suddenly he had someone. He took care of this deer, giving it food, water, and good shelter, like you do for your dogs and cats. The ṛṣi became old, and one day he died. As he was dying, he was sad that he had to separate from his deer and wondered who would take care of it. His soul left the body, but he had been thinking so much of the deer during the day—not about God or something else, but his deer. The result was that the soul of that yogī came into the embryo of that deer; the deer became pregnant, and that soul was born as a deer. The mother deer loved this little fawn very much. One day, the deer baby was sitting in the sun and suddenly realized that he had been a ṛṣi. He wondered how it was possible that he was born as an animal again, and he realized it was due to his attachment. So he prayed to God to free him from this life and grant him a next human life. Where your attachment flows, there your life will flow; there you will return. It is that attachment which creates you; it is attachment which makes you sad. Attachment can create many, many physical and mental disturbances. Love is different than attachment. As long as you are not above this worldly attachment—which also means family attachment—you are bound. Family attachment has two kinds. One is healthy attachment: a healthy attachment with love and fulfilling your duty. The other attachment is a very unnatural attachment, and that will make you unhappy. You should learn from the animals. The human has to learn again from the animals. The bird has attachment. She begins to make a nest, then she lays the eggs in the nest. It is her duty; she sits on the eggs, and her duty is to hatch them. When the little birds hatch, she loves them, is attached to them, and brings them food—but only until the time when they grow up and have strong wings. The parents will still accompany them for one or two flights, and then the bird will take distance. So it is also in animals; animals have a certain period of time for that kind of attachment, then they give them freedom to grow. Of course, this new bird which is flying sometimes cannot fly, sometimes falls down, sometimes falls into a thorny bush, but they manage to come out. The young birds still cannot fly well; sometimes they fall, sometimes they get caught in thorns, but in the end they manage to get free again. So where there is attachment, there is unhappiness. Where there is attachment, there is misfortune. And where there is love, there is happiness. Where there is love, there is freedom. And where there is attachment, there is no freedom. It is very important that we create healthy love and healthy attachment. Otherwise, you can do whatever you want; you can't proceed further. It is like a horse would like to run, but you have this rope of the horse in your hands. There is one very nice example. There is one cow, and this cow is tied in the cow stall or to the cow's table with a strong rope or chain, meaning she cannot free herself. Now the place where she is, her stall, is on fire and burning. The cow is inside and she's burning; she would like to be free but she cannot because she's tied to that hook with the chain and she cannot break it. Similarly, we have some hook in our life, and we are tied to this hook. We are suffering, we are burning inside, and burning a life in the fire. It's not easy; it's painful. You would like now to be free, but you cannot because that hook is too strong. This is your blind attachment; you think it is your responsibility. It is not your responsibility; you have done everything you could. Now let the bird fly free; it doesn't matter which direction. Svobodně odletět, ať si letí jakým směrem chce. Śrī Devpurījī říkával: "Bůh na sebe bere osudy svých oddaných." So God is responsible, and it is destiny. Imagine that you die today; who will take care of your loved ones? What will happen next? It is your ignorance; you think that you are doing everything. It is said: "Kdo dal zobák, dá i zrní." So God, who gave life, will take proper care of everything. Give only the birth, not the destiny. As friends, we can give only support, but not the destiny. This is not only towards our family members or our friends, but also towards other creatures. Therefore, you should know what you have done and till where is your responsibility. So also your children: you give them education for a certain number of years. After 25 years, give them complete freedom. They will learn. But it is your attachment again; it is your ignorance. This ignorance and this attachment is the biggest barrier so that you can't proceed. That rock in front of your cave—you can't get out. That is the chain which is hooked; that cow can't get out of its place. For human intellect and human feelings, sometimes it's very hard, but it is either this or that. You should love them, you should give them education, support, and everything—but only till a certain time. If they need your advice, they can come to you; that's all. That's why mostly parents are suffering. Anyhow, children will not follow you now. Children do what they like to do. Those who are sitting here as parents, whose children are grown already, about 20-30 years or 40 years old—is there someone whose children 100% follow you? Is there any happy parent who is sitting here? That's it. And is there any happy parent sitting here with children who are 12, 13 years, 15 years, and they are following you? That you tell them not to watch television, and they watch it? Huh? Parents say, "Put off the television," and they say, "No, I want to watch this." Is there any happy parent whose children put off the television when they are told? So you see, what a Kali Yuga. That's it. Is there any happy master whose disciples follow him? Yes, I can say, yes, I am the happy master. You see, it's better to be a master than a parent. I can tell you, your disciples will take care of you more than your own children. Therefore, you should develop so far and have good disciples. Yes, nowadays, your friends will take more care about you than your children, because modern education is like that. So try to be active to gain good friends, good disciples. I'm not against children; I love children very much. I wish that our children are well educated, but the problem is the outdoor culture is very different nowadays. Outdoor culture is commercialized, and people who have money get all kinds of license. It is a bitter truth. So moha, attachment, is ignorance. What you think is yours is not yours. And what you think is not yours, it is yours. That's it. You think good things are yours; they are not yours. But the trouble you think is not yours, but it is yours, because they are lying in your destiny. So think and work on this way. Free yourself from this prison, because you know that you are not able to do what you want to do. You are only present and suffering. Now the decision is on you, so just think logically. For example, you are so much attached and suffering for your husband, and your husband doesn't love you at all. But still you take care of him very much, and you don't even go shopping peacefully because you want to run back, come home, and see how he is. I knew one very nice lady; she was 78, and her husband was 81. She was going shopping, and sometimes we were talking, and she said, "I must go quickly home because my husband is alone at home." I said, "Yes, but why not a little bit?" "Yeah, because when I go shopping, then he telephones some other one." He telephones some other ladies—so the jealousy. She is 78 and he is 81. So I told her, "What do you think? Let's say you die; what will happen then?" Then she said, "Then I will come as a ghost and disturb the telephone." So suppose you will die. What will happen to it? Nothing will go with you. Nothing, not even this body. So free yourself from that attachment. Use your wisdom. Use your knowledge, or suffer further. Yes, so you know we said a mother has to separate twice. First, when a child is born and they cut the navel—that's the first separation. And second, when they're married. That's it. Recording location: Czech Republic, Strilky, Summer seminar

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